THE FAKE ELITISM IS SO RAMPANT EVERYWHERE.

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We often alter our character based on others' reactions.

We try to become like people who we despise. The trait that we loathe in someone is the one that motivates us to behave with them, like them, and gradually, it becomes a habit.

Haven't we heard this term often, "I gave it back to her in her style?"

I find something grossly wrong with this saying.

We should always give it back to people in our style, not theirs.

Why alter our character for an individual we think is not well behaved or arrogant, rude, selfish etc.

Should we get influenced by someone/something Wrong?

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We often walk into gatherings/parties, waiting for others to acknowledge us with a " HI" or a "Hello".

We look at each other from the corner of our eyes, waiting for the other to make the first move. We sometimes detou,r crossing paths, too, for fear of bumping into each other. Most people believe the awkwardness of thwarting is better than initiating the greetings.

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Someone avoiding eye contact with us is giving out a signal of disengagement.

People with inferiority or a superiority complex often disregard others.

But what's wrong with saying hi and complimenting people on their dress and looks? Small talk about dress, kids, etc., always helps dismiss the initial discomfort.

This Fake elitism is so rampant everywhere these days.

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This pseudo-elitism is rubbing off on most of us. A friend at a previous party suddenly started dodging people to avoid exchanging glances.

We have started becoming like the people we despised most until yesterday.

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To me, the most handsome men and women are those

who acknowledge others' presence

1. with a hi/hello

2. or by waving a hand

3. or bending the neck

4. Look into the eyes from a distance and smile by battling the eyelids.

The Elite may wear the best of the dress, expensive makeup, and diamond jewellery. Still, no person can look attractive or make a pleasant impression without adorning basic mannerisms.

In illuminating and imbibing this fake elitism, we often fail to teach our children, especially teenagers, to approach elders to greet them and receive their blessings.

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Studies show that people who maintain eye contact are perceived as attractive, competent, socially skilled, in good mental health, credible, and dominant.

When we establish eye contact with someone, we make the person feel important, and human beings value the desire to feel important the most.

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we meet all kinds of people at parties

Some people are not tired of sharing their personal stories

There is someone who only has a sad happening to share whenever you meet them.

Some Others give wisdom to the world.

Some share their success stories, hiding the pains, trials and tribulations.

We need to watch and listen to each person, deduce where they are coming from, show empathy, and take home our share of learning.

By indulging people and immersing ourselves in their stories, we enrich our understanding of this world and how it works.

So go, reach out to people, ask questions, listen to them intently, apply your senses, extrapolate your knowledge, and walk out richer every time you exit a party.

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Next time you get invited to attend a public gathering or a private party, do not forget

to wear your smile over the expensive lipstick

positive body language over the designer dress

Walk with confidence irrespective of your height, weight, skin colour, or salary cheque.

Don't become like the fake people who you despise the most.