न जाने क्यों खुदा ने मुझे इस काबिल समजा

न  जाने क्यों   खुदा ने मुझे इस काबिल  समजा

न जाने क्यों वो तुम बनके मेरे पास आए

न जाने क्यों अपने होने  का सबूत ,उन्हें मुझे  देना पड़ा

 शायद इसी  मेहरबानी के बहाने,  मेरा  कोई क़र्ज़ उतार रहे थे  ??



 कहीं ये कोई ख्वाब तो नहीं ,  मज़ाक  तो नहीं ?

 पर तुम सच हो तो , वो  सच है

तुम नहीं तो,  मेरे लिए वो बी नहीं


यकीन है मुझे की तुम , मेरे से ज्यादा उनकी ज़रुरत हो

अपने आप को साबित करने का उनका  एक जरिया हो !

ये एहसान तेरा बरकरार रखना मुझपे  खुदा

बाकि इसके बदले  तेरा हर  इम्तेहान और शर्त मंज़ूर है मुझे ,

The only absurd thing in #metoo movement

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Let us teach our daughters that the act of bravery does not lie in maligning the reputation of anyone on social media, even the one who has done wrong to them. Courage lies in taking them to the law, and getting them punished, not in tarnishing their image.

The only thing I find absurd about the me-too movement is women writing anonymous mails/posts through friend’s accounts, giving a vivid description of how they were molested or abused sexually decades ago. These women keep their identity under wrap because for them their identity and that of their family members is sacred but they do not apply the same emotion to the family members of the one they are accusing who hasn’t been proven guilty yet. The mental trauma is inflicted on the entire family as soon as you level an allegation.

Before you malign a person, remember he has a family too, whose members are as innocent as you are. You are destroying the lives and career of people who have nothing to do with what you have been through. You are actually creating more dread and damage maybe sometimes more than what you intend to do.

If you want to shame the offender come out in open do not operate from behind the veil. You need to demonstrate courage now at least, with more than half of the world standing by you to support you. To corroborate your allegation, you need to reveal who you are first; otherwise, this will set a dangerous precedent of using sly means to write anything against anyone on social media to settle personal scores too.

As a mother of a male and a female child, I have concern for both the genders. At the cost of one, the other shouldn’t enjoy or suffer.

As a woman, you have the right to narrate the harrowing experiences at the hands of unsuspecting men in the workplace. But in a few stories, it is mentioned by the victim that she continued having routine normal conversations with the alleged sexual predator for various reasons.

Then when you decided to ignore his advances for whatever reasons, you have no right now to dig them up and spread the stench everywhere by concealing your identity. Is this being done just to soothe your old self inflicted wounds? Will you gain anything now?

We should teach our girls to walk out of dangerous intimidating situations and circumstances immediately after sensing the lust in the eyes and gestures of colleagues, do not stay silent, do not become the victim for small benefits and then decade’s later dug up the same once the job is accomplished. This is called being selfish.

girls don’t be selfish now and play the victim card at a later stage, on one hand, you are fighting for gender equality and preposterously on the other hand allowing your sexuality to lead you into an advantageous position over your male counterparts just to weed out the competition, which in a way amounts to being unfair to uncompromising fighters of your gender

Due to some very reasonable reasons I am all alone on this festive day
The man at work , the children spending holidays with granny chote papa and Choti Maa .
I am in Hyderabad for my exams.
All the homes in my neighbourhood are well lit including mine .Boys and girls busting crackers , Women cooking elaborate meals, lighting Diya's , refilling the oil , Men entertaining guests and keeping an eye on the children . My house keepers family requested me to share the Diwali meal with them instead I requested her to cook a meal for all of us in my kitchen .
I am lighting Diya's playing ram Raksha sthotram in the background (SPB version) and continuously thinking of Sita as Diwali is also a symbolic celebration of ram ,Sita n laxmans return to Ayodhya after killing Ravana .
Sita was jubilant on being reunited with family unaware of the turbulent times ahead. The time in Sri Lanka was less humiliating , as it was just a small kidnap and her husband fought and killed the evil Ravana to secure her release , in the end it brought much glory name fame to lord rama , but in Ayodhya she will have to face humiliation at the behest of her own family , first by undergoing a test to prove her chastity and later being sent off to the forests ,for someone in the kingdom of rama was not sure if the test results were genuine or manipulated by rama himself .
When she was weak and humiliated no one stood by her , everyone sacrificed her like an untouchable in the guise of dharma . If Laxmana did raj droha and stayed with her in the forests instead of running away from her , Or if rama himself left Ayodhya with Sita by giving up the Thorne as he did the same once for his fathers word , because he knew and believed that Sita was chaste ... why dint he go with her , she never succumbed to Ravana's offer of being his queen , even if she can foresee rama dumping her she wouldn't have surrendered to Ravana , such is the greatness of mother Sita so intense was her love for rama .
She suffered all her life and then decided to put an end to her suffering and humiliation by ending her life.
I wish she lived long to see better times , her children getting married , grand children , spend some happy times with her husband and large family. I wish she breathed her last tucked in a cosy bed in the palace as an old woman as a raj maata.
Rama on his road to greatness asked for sacrifices of Sita Urmila shrutakirti Kausalya Sumitra and many more ...
On this diwali day my heart goes out to you dear Sita maata , for all the sacrifices you made to reinstate the glory and greatness of your husband the great king rama ..... You are the real hero of Ramayana . राम , श्री राम न बनते अगर माता सीता न होती
I prefer a progressive (stood by Draupadi in her worst times ) flirtatious Krishna to maryada Purushottam shri ram ...
And my heart goes out to all the parents more so for mothers who are celebrating Diwali alone , away from their children and by children I mean both Son and daughter.
I shudder at the thought of seeing such days , just cooking for self away from children in the future. May be this is the fate of all the parents in this progressive world .
An introspective eye opener Diwali for me .
Happy Deepawali dear family and friends .

I open my wardrobe, and it’s time for my daily dilemma of what to wear. The girl notices it and offers help…mom as today is Sunday and you follow the weekly astro color code strictly , so wear this red kurta and pair it with white Patiala, as sun(Sunday and red) and moon(white , Monday ) are friends , this combination shouldn’t upset them, and you may in fact get the benevolence of 2 planets on one day. I don’t laugh at her snide remark on my strict adherence to color code but follow her choice of dress for the day.
She interrupts my thought process by saying mom what if modi ji brings in a new rule tomorrow about limiting the size of wardrobe, what will you do with all these sarees??? I hoarsely chirp at her “preesha shub shub bolo “… mom: - you are upset just at the thought of cutting down the wardrobe, I can guess the impact of it on you, if such a rule is made.
The man calls the girl, and they discuss in meek tenor about my mental status ….I over hear words like aging, frustration …. I yell at them from bedroom, humare shauk hai hi ithne se “few good clothes, little jewelry, and few pairs of sandals” isme bi pabandi hogi tho gussa nahi aayega kya? … She answers back gently , mom what about the perfumes and all the lotions stacked up on the dressing table. i shout back , Please don’t scare me by making me imagine glimpses of govt officers coming and clearing my dressing shelf too.
While driving to work, I realize that I am really getting paranoid reading all the forwards on whatsapp, debates on fb and watching news on the TV, (thankfully off late I have become less of a newspaper person) about people dying in the ques, army taking over a state, rs 5 crore plus of fresh currency seized in bangaluru, a govt officer caught with crores of old currency, bank employees doing money laundering for commission. News reporting is not limited to journalists any more, and journalists are not neutral any more. We are fed by Biased, corrupt, and sold out media 24 hours a day .
Added to this is another nuisance of every party’s back office staff , releasing pro party messages, images, articles ,data into the grapevine … and sadly also the morphed, distorted deprecating and denigrating images of their rivals , and we aam insaan share them frivolously. I don’t know what has taken over us that we don’t think twice before using the forward button.
To be honest I as aam insaan don’t know the real effect of demonetization or good/bad effect of the imposed gold limit or of the pending announcements. I get swayed by the strong make believe current, by the general sentiment created by media. It should be the job of JOURNALISTS to help the truth to percolate to the bottom most layer of the pyramid.
AND IT IS THE JOURNALISTS WHO ARE FAILING TODAYS INDIA.
I finally decide to stop bothering myself about all the good and bad news being spread around and tune into FM, luckily I get arijit for company
“Acha chalta hoon Duaaon mein yaad rakhna
reporter dost mere , kaam tum log sachha karna
i hum along.........................

Damn the nightmares... my brain is yet to make adjustments to the new emerging rules post demonitisation.
As an inheritance from mother, I developed the habit of hiding the currency in between the sarees , under the PAPERS in the wardrobe. I was so distrustful of myself that I never hid them at the most obvious places.
On November 8th night, after our mitr ended bashan on TV, I came home and opened the Godrej almirah and searched the most obvious places but did not find more than a note or two. I was relaxed but then I thought, is this all I saved? No there should be more to it, but from where do I start to ensure that the black snakes are not sitting somewhere silently to settle the scores with me later for forcefully hiding them away from the world.
Next day after the man left I closed the bedroom door opened the wardrobe believing that I am going to unearth a lot of hidden wealth. To my utter dismay I couldn't find more than a couple of old rs500 notes. I wasn't satisfied with my efforts in searching because I had confidence in the bharatiya nari in me.
When we stuff a note here and then in the wardrobe it is always with a noble intention of helping the families sail through the tough times. Actually it helped me big time once, when I lost everything to the tumbled nifty, the hidden wealth saw me though the tough times for a month.
I called my dear saroj to dust every saree. She while doing the same shared that her mother too had the habit of saving money the same way. And mother always had enough to meet the unexpected, unforeseen emergencies in the house. Unplanned needs too were fulfilled by her unanticipated savings. She would give money to brother to fix the cycle puncture, give her a rupee or two to buy bangles in the mela, her sisters tuition fees too was met with these savings. Father was never aware of the backdoor transactions. Rich or poor once we are wives and more important mothers, we think alike save alike and spend alike.
Saroj and I finished the dusting activity by midday, we were successful in finding a couple of the much disliked despised notes, but not to the extent I expected. I was happy and unhappy both at the same time. I left for work and since then till date every discussion in virtual world or real world is all about money...
When I came back from office, while having coffee I asked saroj ...kuch rreh gaya hoga re. she : aap ka vaham hai babhi, Maine har ek sadi ko jhatak ke deka, jo mila uthna hi tha
I made peace as I had 50 more days in hand to dispose, if i accidentally discover any more of them. But everyday there is a new law regarding the abandoned notes.
With 30th Dec around the corner, I am getting jittery about finding the demonetized notes later and then being jailed for the same. Bringing in a lot of disgrace, to the family for stocking the abandoned currency. All this punishment just for the innocent ways we inherited in the name of small domestic savings.
Every Indian housewife should become brave bold suave and demand her share of white money from husbands in their bank accounts, and be provided with a debit card and if possible a credit card too from here on...
Our handsome 56" inch broad chest bachelor mitr should get this idea in his Mann and declare his Mann ki baat as a diktat on one chosen Sunday, Men should be penalised for not declaring their wealth to their women all these years, because of this women developed a habit of saving the savings in the most ancient methods, which caused a havoc in their financial planning recently.
Before the hell breaks loose let me go and dust my wardrobe one final time to save the family dishonor of being branded as black money hoarders, if I discover anything more than a meager rs10, 000 I will be penalized humiliated isolated branded and maybe when I go in search of suitors for my children, they will call us, hey this is the family which once upon a time hoarded rs100000000000000000 (from mouth to mouth a zero gets appended at the end very naturally), hey ram shub shub socho
Rs 50,000 penalty for holding old notes after December 30?
http://toi.in/WpJtbZ/a19ai

After I downloaded Devdutt Pattanaiks my Gita in kindle , inspired by pandit Madhava Turumellas fb live video , the daughter wanted me to tell her a story form what ever I was reading
I handed her the kindle and made her read the following story
The complexity of karma is demonstrated in the following Telugu folk tale based on the Mahabharata: a little girl was drinking milk from a pot when Karna’s chariot rolled past. Startled, she dropped the pot. The pot broke and the earth soaked up the milk. The girl began to cry. Karna saw this, stopped the chariot and decided to get the milk back for the little girl. He took the moist earth in his hand and squeezed out the milk in the pot, much to the girl’s astonishment and delight. Everyone praised the great warrior.
Thus, Karna’s action yielded an expected output. But the outcome was unpredictable. The earth was furious that Karna had squeezed milk out of her. She swore that one day she would take her revenge. So on the battlefield of Kuru-kshetra, she grabbed hold of Karna’s chariot wheel, squeezing it as hard as he had squeezed her , forcing him to alight and pull the wheel free. And while he was thus distracted, with his back to the enemy, he was shot dead. His blood fell on the ground and the earth soaked it all up. Karna’s action thus had two reactions, an immediate one and a subsequent one. The immediate one was perceivable. The subsequent one was not. The latter reaction created the circumstances of Karna’s death.
Arjuna, you have control over your action alone, not the fruits of your action. So do not be drawn to expectation, or inaction.—Bhagavad Gita: Chapter 2, Verse 47..
She read it twice , the complexity of karma theory cannot be solved in a go .
We read some more stories and discussed krishna as the book is all about krishna's teachings
She shared An interesting observation
Maa krishna and jesus had long hair were born at midnight in mysteriously similar circumstances , both were shepherds both of them died in similar circumstances . We tried to connect the dots by exploring some relevant stories online and unlock the theory of their birth and death by doing some research
The story about death of krishna beautifully brings out the very important fact that, even for the Ruler of the Universe, the laws of Karma remain the same.
https://kshetrapuranas.wordpress.com/…/the-death-of-krishn…/
And in the case of jesus Christ
The violence may not always be seen in the body, but it decimates the heart, spirit, mind, character and emotions of people just the same. The beating and scourging of Jesus Christ before crucifixion describes the violent nature of the death he met to redeem our sins
http://www.vatican.va/…/ccc_…/archive/catechism/p122a4p2.htm
they lived , died like ordinary men... I could see some sense in her inference
She . Amma May be they are brothers or father and son?
I : but they were born at different times
She : may be it is a double role like in movies or a reincarnation or spirit brothers
I :what is this new spirit brothers
She : extra ordinary men with same mission descended on to the earth for the same purpose at different times in similar circumstances (bad weather) and died violent deaths as ordinary men...can be called spirit brothers.
I : hmm intresting, we can write a nice comparative fiction based on facts ..like our indigenous amish tripati, Ashwin sanghi does , or share the idea with Dan Brown and later on it be made into a high decibe action packed Hollywood movie
I wish some intellectual takes up these topics on linking gods and their missions , and depict them as 1 United force without any bias towards any one group irrespective of whom they follow or believe in....
All the world needs now in the name of fiction is to show the unity amongst the heavenly powers, to restore harmony on the earth. Instead of using ones creative cells to demean others religion it will be a big service to the mankind if one can deploy their creative thoughts and skills to show the gods as brothers in arms .

Disputes BETWEEN RELATIVES are rarely for money or property or materialistic things.
1) A friend gave birth to 2 babies back to back via c section. The younger one is 2 years old now Her mom in law is pestering her for sometime to get a tubectomy done. She heard it 10 times and the 11th time she asked her mom in law why can’t your son get some procedure done on himself as I already underwent 2 surgeries .
The mom in law said he is a man you know and it is not right for men, they should always have open options, this irritated my friend so she gave a curt reply what if I want to marry again and have a third child with someone else , you know even I want to keep my options open so I don’t want to undergo any family planning operation.
And mother please allow us husband and wife to decide where and when and how many kids we want to have, please stop giving us free advices.
She had to do this to buy some peace for herself. This does not amount to hurting or ill-treating your elders.
2) This is a second friend of mine from Hyderabad who lives with her husband in delhi . she has set up a nice thai fast food centre there which is doing well. Her husband works for some MNC.
Her sister in law who lives in Chennai is running a high end boutique catering to celebrities . she calls my friend very often and advices her to shut that small eatery and relocate to Hyderabad to take care of her ageing parents.
As my frends sister in law is making more money in her business than my friend , she considers it as her prerogative to give muft ka gyan, according to her, old ageing in laws shouldn’t be neglected, it is bad karma , unethical etc etc, my friend got so pissed off with the muft ka gyan that she told her nanand, dear sister in law why don’t you shut your boutique and go back to your in laws in hyderbad to take care of them, as they are ageing too, you can also take care of your parents along with your in laws by shifting the base.
You do not get the power to dominate me just by the virtue of your riches or rich clients. My business to me is as precious as yours is to you. we will handle our responsibilities, our in law's very well, you take care of yours, don’t go around giving mufti ka gyan!
I think this muft gyan giving, taunting, encroaching into others personal space, interference in personal matters, dominating people just by the power of being elders,
dictating terms,
keeping BIG EGOS ,
EXPLOITING ,
PREACHING WITHOUT PRACTICING , GANGING UP AGAINST ONE PERSON , indifferent behavior etc etc are causing more stress in relations than anything else.
We often drive away people,
OUR OWN PEOPLE from us to far away places , both physically and emotionally. due to the above reasons.
The day we start respecting every person as an individual with his own specific needs we will see less stress and more love in the relations.
STOP HANGING ON TO THE OBLIGATION or LIABILITY IN A RELATION WHEN YOU ARE DEALING WITH YOUR OWN PEOPLE.
GIVE YOUR BEST , MANY TIMES WE DON’T GET WHAT WE GIVE BUT REMEMBER IT IS A DEFICIENCY IN THE RECEIVER THAT HE IS NOT ABLE TO RECIPROCATE WITH THE SAME LOVE..LEAVE IT , AND HOPE THAT HE WILL EVOLVE ONE DAY TO BECOME AS GIVING AS YOU ARE !

learning should be a life long process!

While watching Prime ministers speech yesterday evening I told my husband I wish you too sold chai , why did you become a doctor , see the prince of India would have walked half the way of the house to hug you. A chai wala is so powerful in comparison to the foreign educated opposition leader.
The daughter asked slowly from behind so mom will you allow me to study a little less from tomorrow, I too will grow up and open a coffee shop, instead of becoming a doctor or an engineer!
She turned towards her dad and winked at him.
I said yes provided you read the newspaper daily , manorama year book every weekend , and finish reading one great biography every month, choice is yours now, either school books or other good books but the reading should go on . my fear is if I let you lose without any conditions , all you will do is watch those silly stupid episodes on Netflix .
More than her scores, we keep an eye on her thought process and try to make an assessment of her core strengths. Academic scores take a back seat when it comes to participation in sports, co-curricular and extracurricular activities. She has her own set of weaknesses and teenage distractions which we together try to help her overcome. Many times it is even difficult to extract what is going on in a teenager’s mind, who is playing the devil and hero in their minds. She doesn’t even give us access we have to do a lot of goading to make her open up and share, above all it isn’t easy for a full time working mother to keep an eye on the child round the clock.
Last couple of months I have been mentally recording the fascinating discussions between parents about their children of all ages at various gatherings …
At one table There is a mother who Often mentions about her colleagues very sarcastically, according to her , her colleagues send their daughter to too many tuitions, in spite of the effort of multiple tuitions and teachers the child did not score any great percentage. She would go on asking every child she meets at the party about how many tuitions they are attending. She would know the exact number of tuitions every child is going to, in their colony. All the statistics are permanently recorded in her brain. And she will not fail to quote them at every possible opportunity. Whoever she meets at the party she will try to bring up the tuitions topic and use the opportunity to share about her child doing it on his own without the help of any tuition teacher and scoring full marks in all subjects except languages.
At the next table a mother is giving sermons that they will not pay any donation /management fees or use any recommendation to get their child into a good school/college , she says our ethics doesn’t permit us to do so, But after the results came out she was the first one to get her child admitted into a college under the management fees category.
At the third table there is another lady who is never happy even when her child scored 100/100. She is always cribbing; it is not out of humility but out of the greed of wanting 101/100
At the next table is a mother of a toddler, who, while checking the diaper of her daughter was sharing her concern if ever her daughter will make it to aiims, given the disturbance and chaos her in laws create in her house.
At the next table is a mother who is feeding her son in a hurry as she does not want her 5 year old son to miss the school next day. she created a situation of panic a scene of something like the child is going to miss IAS entrance tomorrow if he does not go home and sleep before 8 pm . She summoned her husband and warned him to wind it up as fast as possible to go home early.
You meet anyone, go anywhere, relatives, friends neighbours, colleague are all engulfed by the fear of their child not making it to the right college on time. Education is our concern, our weakness and our strength too.
We have to accept the fact that every child will grow in his own timeline. Tuitions or no tuitions it is the child’s effort which will bring him the marks.
Stop using your child’s success to look down upon other children. Every individual will shine and rise at some point in his career. Success does not come to everyone at the same age. Some shine in school , some others in college, few among the rest will open businesses to hire the above school and college toppers , and the left out will outshine everyone in assembly and parliament.
While my mind raced back and forth collecting all the data about mothers and their obsession with marks, the PM was going on and on , on the TV. I shuffled between various channels to listen to expert opinion on his speech , As All of them individually and collectively couldn’t find any fault in his intent and content so they directed their ire and criticism towards the length and duration of his speech.
They found it boring, where as I found it interesting , the rebuttal to the hug, and the lengthy but beautiful chronological explanation on why he cant do the ankh milana , the taunt by quoting Chidambaram, the answer as kaamdaar to the naamdaar bagidar allegation…. He covered everything….though he couldn’nt give enough explanation on the lynching, the raphel deal...
The motion was moved by the prince, the intelligentsia and their allies but it was won by the chai waala, the masses and the ordinary bhaktas aka patriots!
So do not underestimate your child even if he does not come in top 10, do not get carried away by taunting aunties venom spitting dialogues….
If you give him enough space one day he will become capable of hiring all the toppers of his class.
Let us teach the kids that there is a lot of learning outside the school books, and that learning should be a life long process!

Dear men
I often hear you throwing tantrums
That you work hard the entire day
That you did not go out to have fun
That your labour has to be respected
That you are doing everything for the family…
Please stop this nonsense emotional sentimental game
You go out and work because it is very inconvenient and shameful for you to stay at home and do the household work, yes you don’t go out to have fun, a woman who stays at home is not doing it for fun either, you are doing everything for the family , so is she doing it for the family, yes your labour has to be respected and it will be respected provided you respect the labour which the lady puts into cooking your meals, making your beds, doing your laundry , cleaning your wash rooms , arranging your wardrobes etc. you work hard the entire day ? stay at home for a week and do all the household chores and tell me who is working hard for unpaid services.
Stop throwing tantrums on women whose services cannot be brought with money, for she does everything with love and out of love for the family.

Dear women
Stop taunting your men
When they come home late, because incentives and increments will come only when one puts extra labour
Stop taunting them if they socialise, for networking and good social contacts are essential to thrive in today’s market.
Stop harassing them if they do not share your work at home, family is a team work, 1 earns and the other manages with the earnings.
Stop comparing your men with other successful men, remember it hurts you when you are compared to a Karishma Kapoor or Aishwarya rai.
Stop taunting him for his mother’s mistakes, the man who will respect and take care of his mother and sister is trust worthy, believe me such men will have respect for their wives and daughters too
UNNECESSARY AND UNWANTED GYAN FROM ME ON A WORK DAY

POLITICAL SATTIRE

POLITICAL SATTIRE
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My house has become a small political akhada these days
The teenage daughter brought a street cat from somewhere near her tennis ground. She wanted to give the cat shelter and feed her. But the cat and dog weren’t getting along well so she chose dog over the cat and abandoned the cat. (Nitish kumar abandoned lalu for bjp)
When I asked one of our friends who has fish pond on how they are able to keep the frogs at bay from the pond. They said that the ducks were taking care of the frogs. They invited me to see the ducks, and I really liked their pond as it was free of tadpoles. To kill the tadpoles I decided to adopt ducks. All politics you know!
So I went home and told our mujibur to buy 2 ducks. The ducks
started vying for my attention with their gentle, feminine graceful movements. (The JNU GANG) they are a Very cute pair. But the dog got restless looking at the ducks. So I did batwara of the garden and earmarked their boundaries by erecting a bamboo fence. The ducks never bothered but the dog tried its best to intrude, (like the Chinese) to attack, to capture, to kill, to establish its supremacy
And he succeeded in breaching the chakravyuh, he almost caught one duck but the timely intervention by our mujibur saved the ducks. (the voilence by various fringe groups from either side)
The family too got vertically split like the country.
I took the ducks side, but the dad and daughter took the dogs side. Mujibur and one maid who is docile and unwilling to play ruthless politics took my side.
The other power hungry dominating maid took to the team of dad daughter and dog.
One fellow was neutral, not taking any side weighing the benefits on going with either of them like hd kumaraswamy, cbn, kcr, jagan pawan, patnaik etc
The third front parties will decide on who gets the power the bjp or the congress
,
I started avoiding the dog and the dad and daughter did not give one look at my ducks.
I lost the battle and had to see off the ducks as the husband brought in emotional appeal of sibling rivalry and how it is affecting the dog psychologically. These days everyone is emotionally blackmailed in the country in the name of religious sentiment and made to shut their mouth on the emotion of patriotism.
The dog too started playing mind games and started acting as if it is very hurt because of the ducks getting their space which legitimately is his own because he has been residing there much before them.
I told them that their dog has to learn to live peacefully and coexist with others and respect others existence too as everyone has a right to live in the house and garden however less mighty they are.
Meanwhile mujibur came and said madam I want some cash advance , as we have to give a bali (sacrifice) of 1 gai (cow) in the village, all my brothers are pooling money, there is a small festival called as qurbani in the days to come.
I said mujibur how much ever I might be a congressi at heart but I will not support gou hatya with my money. So no advance, instead I will give you money go and buy a cow, only the mighty cow can teach this dog a lesson. Let us play their game with them now, like rahul Gandhi did by temple hopping.
Meanwhile the very hardworking dudh wali aunty came with milk. I requested her to buy a desi cow for us from the Tuesday bazaar next week. She said cow vigilantism is on the rise so the vendors are not able to load their cows en masse in a truck and bring them to bazaar; hence there is shortage of cows on sale.
By supporting cow vigilantism we are hurting the cows and gwalas business more than anyone elses.
The situation in my house is reflecting the confusion and chaos in this countries polity, thought process and strategy at this stage. The dogs, cats and pigs are holding the citizens at ransom.
We don’t know who is a liberal, who is communal or secular and what defines whom and who is right.
Shekhar gupta has rightly said LIBERALS ARE THE MOST RIGID GROUP OF PEOPLE THESE DAYS. MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY , is their attitude.
In his own words , I quote ”I might ask though how can you be liberal and yet have a vacuum-packed book of rules, behavior and speech? “

I am the cm of the house, man is the LG, the helps in the house are officers.
I had a scuffle with the helps, I abused them so they refused to work.
I am helpless. I should have apologised and made a truce with them and taken them back to work mode. That’s how conflicts should be addressed.

My house is in a mess now as no one is working, they have gone into total silence. I throw the blame on the husband. The husband shrugged it off as an issue between me and the helps, so I should handle it.
I then blamed his mother, saying that he is working at her behest, she is not allowing him to help me convince my helps to work.
The neighbours pitch in to help me, they demand the husbands time.
But the man refuses to entertain them as he thinks it is an internal matter of the house and others shouldn’t be allowed to interfere or intervene. He is not willing to give them any mileage.
I refuse to eat, drink and sit on dharna.
In telugu we call it alugudu, in Hindi roothna
Husband ,mom in law and his relatives stamp me off as a drama queen, they say that it is my habit to sulk for every small reason.
I think the mom in law is definitely involved in this though not directly but the husband and she are in touch and his entire family Is guiding him on handling me.
I turn to my elder sister for help. She is envious of me because I defeated her in few games. So, she is having fun sitting on the side-lines.
Now I have few friends in the media, here and there. These are my friends, because for both of us it is the same formula of dushman ka dushman dost.
They make noise here and there, but they are outnumbered by people who really, honestly, truly endorse my acting and melodramatic skills.
Someone called as Prakash naraz is going on asking and asking and calling it just asking. I don’t how he asking is going to solve the problems
I will not apologize until I am not hospitalized and I get attention of entire colony town etc.
Watch for my skills in the days to come, I will not disappoint you !
And watch for my husband and his relatives shrewdness in writing me off as drama queen
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THANKS TO THE DOCTORS

I am having palpitations for some time now, so I decided to meet the cardiologist who visits our place 3 days in a week and get an echocardiography done by him.
Everyday there is a news, of a friend, a relative, a social media contact, a celebrity getting diagnosed with a terminal illness. Listening to all this regularly made me a little sceptical about my health and the panic button got triggered in my head. I fixed an appointment with the cardiologist though the reception desk and paid the doctor consultation charges.
At the scan table the cardiologist asked me why are you  getting an echo done all of a sudden that too on a self-prescription. I said sir I guess my heart isn’t working properly these days, I become restless and the pulse goes up frequently, just check and let me know if it is ok?
After a couple of minutes of scanning he replied it is ok, it is not just a good heart but it is also a kind heart.
Those good words took away half of my ailments and I had a hearty laugh sleeping on that table.
But again, I persisted with the same question but sir why am i having these palpitations?

he said we Have palpitations because we are active, we work, we are agile nothing much to worry about it.
Anything which comes out of doctor’s mouth sound like a divine gospel, He gave me the confidence of being a normal healthy person within 10 minutes of meeting him, more power to our doctors who many times heal us psychologically with their positive reassurances.

I shared that before meeting him I was dreading a diagnosis of some major disease with a big complicated fashionable, difficult sounding name. these days every morning we wake up to some celebrity falling prey to a new rare kind of cancer, the recent being Irfan khan and Somali bendre. God heal them soon and help human race defeat the rebel cells called as cancer. I know god, you did not design these rebel cells, it is our lifestyle which is responsible for few cells in our body turning rebel and, its we who empower them to defeat us.

I shared with the doctor that anticipating some difficult uncurable disease I prepared 3 goodbye letters for the man, the teenage daughter and the son before just before entering his room. the doctor started giggling as we continued our chat. suddenly my doctor husband walked into the cubicle and asked how long will she  survive sir because I found a goodbye mail in my inbox just now, so I rushed in to check the seriousness of the disease!
I said sir look at the criosity, as soon as he received the mail he rushed into confirm my death date because in the mail I gave him permission to marry again after my death.
Now that the cat is belled, in your presence too I give him the permission to remarry on one precondition that his future wife will not touch my sarees and jewellery, he will have to preserve them for my bahu and beta.
The doctor said with a serious expression Mrs Reddy please come out of the illusion that after you are gone he will wait for your written or verbal permission to remarry. We all laughed at his serious comment.
The man said sir she writes us long mails even if she has a mild flu so we stopped taking her letters, mails and permissions seriously.
I said sir let me also tell you that god forbid I die and he marries again I assure you that his new wife cannot withstand few of his habits. She will divorce him within a week for his snoring … I can give this in writing. Maybe to defeat me she will tolerate it for a week, but on the 8th day she will walk out leaving behind her bag and baggage never to return.
Let us hypothetically assume that she survives the snoring episode too but how will she tolerate the noise in her bedroom up to 2 am every night. He with his dog and daughter will eat, talk and walk in and out of the room with all the lights on till 1 am.
You can check it yourself by giving us a surprise visit on any day at 1 am.
When we started making the new house I wanted to make separate bedrooms for both of us but dunia walon ke darr se I did not do that, so I allowed him in to my room but he brought with him his daughter his dog and whenever his son is in town he too will squeeze himself into the same space. every time they watch tv as if they have come from Somalia, as if they are seeing it for the first time in their life.
They act so starved that they will watch that disgusting Tribago add too with the same seriousness whereas the world cannot stand that fellow even for a single second.
My bedroom is like a mela till midnight every night, I guarantee you that this 3 people and their 1 dog is responsible for all my health problems.
You know last week he woke me up from sleep at midnight and said dekho dekho goal hua…Croatia or Russia have to win through penalty shootouts only now…. they sat tensed biting nails …after watching the penalty shootouts and the match was over I asked him which team Croatia was, the red or black, he angrily said ab tum so hi jao pls. I drifted back to sleep guessing which one might have been Croatia!
The doctor said not just your husband Mrs Reddy, even I sleep at 2 am every night, and FIFA happens once in 4 years so you should be liberal with the tv watching schedule and you too should enjoy the sport it is good for health.
I asked him seriously, sir is your wife too having tachycardia, he said yes yes, I am going to give you the same medicine which I gave her and she is perfectly ok now and allows me to stay awake till late in the night and watch the sport.
The man said sir please do that and thank you for counseling her that she has no major illness and it is normal to watch tv till late in the night.
I walked out of the room with the prescription thanking god that it wasn’t anything serious.
My heart goes out to the young mothers, wives, girls who are fighting terminal illnesses every day, using every breath with a lot of optimism.
I guess we all should be more thankful to everything we have today right now, because we actually don’t know how tomorrow is going to unravel itself. Which test is going to reveal what disease and cut short our journey with our beautiful families.
My prayers to sonali bendre and Irfan khans speed recovery.
Thanks to all the doctors who help us get back to good health with their knowledge, care, concern, wit and humour.

ROCKS EVERYWHERE

ROCK'S EVERYWHERE

Rocks on the ears
Rocks on the fingers
Rocks on the neck
Sometimes on the tongue
And on the umbilicus too

We fight wars with husbands
With in-laws with employers
With every shopkeeper
To accumulate the bucks
Which will help us buy few rocks

We dream of them
Sitting sleeping walking
We fantasize receiving
Then as surprise gifts
From lovers and husbands

Are we thoughtless
To spend a lifetime
Doing something which
Can never add
Any beauty to our soul?

I often

Laugh at women who do not buy
a gram of gold or a piece of rock
But happily spend the reserves
On enriching their inner cosmos

They love to Sit on a beach and watch
the sun rise, or go down
They dare to Stand on a cliff and flirt
With a breeze of fresh air
They treasure to Sleep under the sky
and watch stars and moon in solitude

I often

Laugh at women who
overlook metals and rocks
perfumes ,cosmetics and colours
To indulge in reading , writing
painting cooking or gardening
to create , sow, reap ,Cook
serve, feed, donate or pray

but

I inundated my world with avarice
So what if petite is life
I just look the other way,
And succumb to the illusion of
Wealth induced luxury
Day after day endlessly
wanting more and more
rocks everywhere maybe
one, even on the pyre too
you know
my grave too should be well adorned !

FREEDOM COMES WITH RESPONSIBILITY !
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The man rushed into kitchen and asked me why did you hit Leo in the morning and shout at our daughter.
I had to because she did not stop him when he played like a pig in my lotus pond destroying my effort of 2 months in 2 minutes.
But how is it her fault?
Yes it is her fault, she did not stop him from doing so
She cannot encroach on his freedom to play like a kid and you cannot encroach on her freedom to enjoy watching the scene
I did not pay attention to his language of freedom in every second word he uttered , instead shifted my focus to smriti irani , and the controversy surrounding around fake news on television.
The man left the breakfast table murmuring sangeeta reddy and smriti irani are same, they behave like hitter wherever they are!
Sir,
The first thing every man craves for in the morning is a news paper, the first channel people surf on the TV is a news channel. News directly influences our thought process and forces us to form opinions in our head! ; Hence it should be the most pious body as it can change the direction of country’s thought process.
Why are journalists opposing the order which will lay down new guidelines to punish them for fake news?
If they can use their pen and voice liberally, literally to cast aspersions on everyone, why shouldn’t they be subjected to the same scrutiny in case they spread fake news for material benefits or out of personal grudge, agenda , vendetta or maybe simply in agreement with ideology and philosophy of their nemesis’s friend.
How will the new norms intimidate free press? Ulta it will empower all the good, ethical journalists who always write and speak only truth, OR is it a perceived fact among the fraternity that they are not left with any more honest journalists ?
This new bill would have eliminated paid media, biased media completely. Journalists can now take a bold stand backed by facts figures and evidence. Journalism is not speculation, it cannot be fiction, and we consumers are fed the imaginations and fancies of these journalists many times. And this bill will very much work against any party in power; opposition can make good use of this to stop any wrong news being spread about them.
This is a democracy, everyone’s rights should be protected, let no one have a free run, let every professional body be made equally susceptible. For the sake of one’s own personal benefits no one should be empowered to malign others.
The big example of how karma café welcomes one is evident in maneka Gandhi’s case.
She published pictures of babu jagjivan ram’s 40 year old son Suresh ram doing sexual acrobatics with his amorous mistress in her surya magazine, when every other publishing house refused to do so, as it was against the ethical code. Decades later varun gandhis pictures circulated on electronic media , maybe they were morphed or photo shopped or whatever, but they were pictures of him with a woman in compromising position , everywhere with headlines “ varun Gandhi honey trapped “
When we want to get rid of quacks in medical services, unqualified teachers, engineers to be eliminated, politicians to be punished for not delivering, why shouldn’t journalists be subjected to scrutiny for spreading fake news?
We agree with smriti Irani when she said “Accreditation committee comprises of editors, journalists and representatives of press council of India and national broadcasters association: will these people victimize one of their own?
Dear journalists please lead by example and lead us Indians towards a better India! Encourage the IB ministry to reintroduce the debate on fake news! Stand for the values you preach on a daily basis through various mediums.
The country can be in order if the journalists in that country are fearless to tell any true story!
We condemn the killing of pansare, kalburgi , lankesh , rajdeo, dabolkar, sai reddy …. We want free press, we want honest press, we want fearless press, we want unbiased press, and we want democratic press….
FREEDOM COMES WITH RESPONSIBILITY BOTH AT PERSONAL LEVEL AND PROFESSIONAL LEVEL!

I come home after a long day's work to see dog hair on the carpet, bed, sofa everywhere, he made merry out of disturbing the shoe rack, pulled out the insole of sports shoes and left half part of it on the terrace, and it had holes everywhere.
The didis said daughter and dog on a holiday are uncontrollable and they don't follow any rules once I step out of the house. TV remote was missing which was later found in the sofa crevice.
To threaten them I said girl you are going to hostel and he is going to dog shelter tomorrow. I don't want this mess in my house.
Protesting she went outside and sat in the lawn he too followed her. I waited for them to come back on their own

After I was done with surfing for the insoles of my shoes online ,I went out to call them but they just ignored me , later I had to plead, to get them inside.
Huh..... Who can understand a mother and her problems....? Above all the man said "your mother is ill-treating Leo and behaving with him like a step mother” and then he turned towards me and said “this is a house and not a museum allow them to play the way they want to”.
Left with no energy to argue with them I found solace in the company of shouting news anchors, I felt they were doing it for me, the venting out!

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It is 3 years daddy. On this day at the same time i received a call from, Prabhaker mammayya saying daddy looks a little unwell.
I realised immediately that you have started your journey to a new destination. if you have decided to leave, you will and no one can stop you.
Your will power, your grit, your strength are far more powerful than anyone else's. What an exemplary life!
Enjoy your time with MA In the abode of krishna. Keep guiding me, I just imitate you both in every crisis I face, I talk to you both many times in dreams, am sure it is your initiative to visit me frequently in the silence of the night.

Maybe even I don't love my children am much as you loved me and cared for me!
While I was doing Pooja in the New house I could see you both every where on every wall smiling with pride, with happiness with love. I know you are always watching my children,with you in their vicinity guarding them, no evil can ever reach touch them.
Maa your brothers are taking good care of me, they don't allow me to miss you, dad your siblings too are kind to me your youngest brother is exceptionally caring.
Don't worry about me, I am happy 😊, keep visiting me, keep the discussions alive, let the guidance and wisdom flow uninterruptedly.

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He said stop using mobile for reading news that’s the only remedy to your eye problems and dark circles under the eyes too will go away.
I said see PM Modi is working 16 hours a day still he looks fresh without any health issues because of the imported mushrooms he is eating .
If you really care for me then buy me those mushrooms imported from Taiwan , price per piece rs 80000 , get them for me I will become fair and lovely , your dream girl 😊 in no time.
He left the room wiping hands with rumaal murmuring इससे बात करना ही बेकार है

I murmured behind his back , I don’t want free advices only expensive ones please..
At 42 I will have
Grey in my hair
Wrinkles on my face
Pain in the knees
Sugar in the blood
Pressure in the vessels
glasses on the nose
Buy me mushrooms or live by accepting an ageing wife 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Dad seriously she needs to be enrolled for news Deaddiction ......
I dint care for their comments as I was more worried about Asaram Baba
Sanju Baba getting convicted was acceptable but asaram Baba , no no he shouldn’t , how can god men who uplift the lives of millions of followers allow an ordinary mortal like judge 👨‍⚖️ to send them to jail. No no not possible , I was peeping into the tv to see Asaram get into judges mind by using his spiritual powers to acquit him of all the false charges , but I think the judge was a disciple of even more powerful Baba that he couldn’t be manipulated even a bit.
These days some powers higher than the babas are working on the judges hence poor ram Rahim and pujya asharam Bapu are convicted.
I asked Leo who was sitting at my feet, licking my toe , how do you dogs identify dangerous people just by sniffing them ,
To which The daughter replied without lifting her head from the Ph , maa they are not as needy and greedy like us humans , they dont look at people from utility point of view , that’s why they are honest and loyal , better the next time you visit a Baba take leo along with you he will sniff the Baba and give you a signal ....
I thought what non sense this girl is talking, who goes to Baba’s these days for spiritual discourses , Ashram’s are akadas for networking and money laundering, we will create more babas as long as they serve our higher purpose of making more and more and more money 💰, get us connected to higher ups in the government , helps us stack our black money in safe havens via their network , help us get our children admission into big college through back door , help us form the governments, help us assassinate powerful enemies , the SPIRITUALITY THING IS AN EYE WASH FOR MASSES ... the real business happens behind the close doors , out of 100’s of crimes they commit not even .01 percent are reported .... huh

My ph started ringing at 9 am
I said hello aunty Namaste , how are you
She : I did not call you in the morning , because I thought you will be sleeping
I : no issues aunty , I am up and awake now, we can talk
She : actually you people don’t get up early , so I did not call you at 7 am, after I came back from morning walk
I : it is ok aunty you could have given a missed call, I would have called back , anyways we can chat now
She : we cannot sleep after sunrise you know, we have to complete our morning walk before 7 am. We eat only organic oats for breakfast with milk and imported honey, it is healthy , we get this stuff from USA
I : losing patience, wow aunty great , you are healthy and wealthy I am so very happy for you
She : I have to complete my pooja by 8 am, breakfast by 9 am. I called you after completing my morning pooja , what are you doing now, did you brush your teeth (taunt)
I : not yet aunty , I will once you put down the ph
She : you don’t call these days , you are very busy I think, but I see your updates on facebook daily (another taunt)
I : yes aunty busy life , tight routine but still I make it a point to visit facebook and spend sometime on it , reading, debating discussing and writing , it is recreation and education too
She : aur kya chal raha hai
I : all good aunty , did you call for any special pupose aunty
She : no , you never call , so I thought let me atleast call you in between… take some time for us too and practice to get up early , eat oats, museli , blue berries this that non sense (taunt after taunt, there is no love)
She went on and on taunting, gossiping , flaunting riches , I sensed no love purpose in the ph call ….
So I put the ph on kitchen platform and shouted hello helloooo hellllooo hellllooooo hello from a distance…. Aunty you are not audible , network issues I guess , I will call you back…helllooo helllooo
I turned to the man sitting next to me and said we are any day better than these breed of people who take a high moral ground out of being slaves of the clock. Who disrespect others time, who make ph calls to others in the morning to taunt and gossip and take pride in their sanskar of doing pooja everyday. What happens between you and your god should be personal and beautiful, how can one flaunt it as a great habit.
My observations of whenever I was forced to go on morning walking are
Group of pot bellied men assemble on the street corner in the morning to discuss share market while walking , another group of women bad mouth their mother in laws and devars wiping sweat with their dupattas from their forehead , next batch of women in their 50’s dress like 30 year olds walk with stress on their faces , old men stand at one corner of the park and laugh wildly, a group of young boys run as if they are being chased by a mad dog. I spot a lone woman doing back walking back and forth on one street, she has demarcated it as her kingdom , Then there is another man who spreads a sheet on the centre of the road sleeps on it for an hour and then leaves in his car. When we meet known faces while walking we have to say hi hello good morning not just that we are also judged by the brand of shoes and tracks we are wearing, by the speed of our foot steps etc . There are people who buy designer morning walk gear too…
Tell me are these people getting up at 4 am to do some social service, to cook and feed 100 hungry poor people, or go to leprosy home to give the suffering people a massage, or at least minimum collect the litter on the street while walking.
No know, then who gave them the right to give sermons to late risers as if we are criminals. They get up in the morning for their own body but they flaunt it as if they are giving lakhs of rupees in donation by walking, eating oats , bathing in the morning and doing pooja….
All nonsense, hypocrisy and false people , pseudo lives
The man sensing tension got up , putting the cup on the kitchen table, folding news paper said why are you spoiling your mood in the morning… it is ok , I don’t mind even if you get up at 10 o clock….

I was mesmerized by the color of Rs 200 notes, instead of bundling them I spread them out on the bed and was doing loud talk. The daughter who has entered her teenage is hooked on to durjoy dutta’s books these days. She was reading the book “a boy with a broken heart”; her brother had been taunting her for some time for her choice of books.
She asked maa what are you talking to yourself ?
I said , I think modi ji had some hidden intention behind choosing orange color for rs.200 note, of all the newly printed currency , Rs 200 note is the most beautiful one. He wanted people to connect to him and his party through the currency too. Se he did not make rs.2000 note orange color, he did not introduce this color in the first phase for the fear of raising suspicion. He did this by design and choice. See he is very smart. Rs.200 notes are mostly kept by masses, and his vote bank is also masses. I know now why Rs. 200 notes is orange and why it was introduced a year later.
The daughter said maa you look at 4 people with suspicion always, bhaiyya , dad , me and modi ji….
I said tu chup chap padh le
The husband who I thought was deeply involved in csk rcb match asked slowly, so what will you do with them now.
I said they are so beautiful that I will accumulate them and never spend them.
The daughter without lifting her head, “ maa there maybe another demonetization, don’t do that , you always teach us to learn from experience and never repeat mistakes”.
I said not many but I will keep at least rs.10, 000 in rs.200 denomination.
He said let her Preesha, her spending may go down if she has more of rs.200 notes.
I turned towards daughter and said why don’t you read your stupid book, turned towards man and said you watch cricket up to 12 am every night as if it is a divine ritual, not just that you watch a replay, highlights, and expert commentary of nonsense fellows shouting on the TV till midnight, when I don’t have any objection to any of this, why do you taunt me for small shopping habits.
They went into mute mode after that, we women know how to silence men at the right time, just raise your voice a little and show signs of “I am ready for a fight”, they will withdraw silently.
But believe me this modi ji is very intelligent, see he went and started a Chai pe charcha even in china !
Here in India he left behind his disciples to do all the brainwashing propaganda, the Tripura CM who is a BJP person Biplab Deb Says Aishwarya Rai is the real face of Indian women, not Diana Hayden. He said that "We see women as goddess laxmi, Saraswati and Aishwarya Rai represents that Indian women.
When he said that there was Internet in the Mahabharata era, we gave him benefit of doubt; ho sakta hai when shree Rama can fly from lanka to ayodhya maybe internet too existed then , and maybe that’s how sanjaya gave a live commentary of kurukshetra war to Dhritarashtra ! maybe yes internet existed !
According to him , "Indian women did not use cosmetics in the old times. Indians did not use shampoo; they washed their hair with methi water and bathed with mud. yes , fine good.
But maybe he does not know that aishwarya endorsed a lot of cosmetic products herself , and she uses them on daily basis, a friend who met aishwarya recently said that “aishwarya had a painted face and she took 3 hours to get ready to attend a small media conference
Maybe he is right in saying that beauty pageant organizers are international marketing mafia, who spotted a huge market in the country. Today, there is a beauty parlor in every corner of the country."
Fine no issues , but how does that make Diana Hayden inferior to aishwarya rai physically , is not understandable
Is it because of her name or her color ……?
Sir this kind of discrimination is not doing any good to us , don’t cut us and separate us from multiple angles, it will pain bharat mata more.
modi sir , you are very intelligent so please do not allow influential people from your party to talk nonsense.
Even if it is a part of well thought out well organized scheme and strategy to divide and rule, believe me the gains will be short term, educated class of people like us who saw a hope in change , who believed that something good and great is going to happen after 2014 will not look with the same vision post 2019.
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Please sir rs.200 note is beautiful, we love it but we need all the notes and colors to maintain the balance ………….
And to end it sir what is the difference between your people and the turkish islamic scholar cevat aksit , who said “don’t get entirely naked like donkeys, there are angels in the room, and they leave when you are naked, leaving only Satan in the room, who will have an influence on your baby “
Sir aren’t you fighting this ideology , and aren’t you thinking on similar lines ?

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