The only absurd thing in #metoo movement

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Let us teach our daughters that the act of bravery does not lie in maligning the reputation of anyone on social media, even the one who has done wrong to them. Courage lies in taking them to the law, and getting them punished, not in tarnishing their image.

The only thing I find absurd about the me-too movement is women writing anonymous mails/posts through friend’s accounts, giving a vivid description of how they were molested or abused sexually decades ago. These women keep their identity under wrap because for them their identity and that of their family members is sacred but they do not apply the same emotion to the family members of the one they are accusing who hasn’t been proven guilty yet. The mental trauma is inflicted on the entire family as soon as you level an allegation.

Before you malign a person, remember he has a family too, whose members are as innocent as you are. You are destroying the lives and career of people who have nothing to do with what you have been through. You are actually creating more dread and damage maybe sometimes more than what you intend to do.

If you want to shame the offender come out in open do not operate from behind the veil. You need to demonstrate courage now at least, with more than half of the world standing by you to support you. To corroborate your allegation, you need to reveal who you are first; otherwise, this will set a dangerous precedent of using sly means to write anything against anyone on social media to settle personal scores too.

As a mother of a male and a female child, I have concern for both the genders. At the cost of one, the other shouldn’t enjoy or suffer.

As a woman, you have the right to narrate the harrowing experiences at the hands of unsuspecting men in the workplace. But in a few stories, it is mentioned by the victim that she continued having routine normal conversations with the alleged sexual predator for various reasons.

Then when you decided to ignore his advances for whatever reasons, you have no right now to dig them up and spread the stench everywhere by concealing your identity. Is this being done just to soothe your old self inflicted wounds? Will you gain anything now?

We should teach our girls to walk out of dangerous intimidating situations and circumstances immediately after sensing the lust in the eyes and gestures of colleagues, do not stay silent, do not become the victim for small benefits and then decade’s later dug up the same once the job is accomplished. This is called being selfish.

girls don’t be selfish now and play the victim card at a later stage, on one hand, you are fighting for gender equality and preposterously on the other hand allowing your sexuality to lead you into an advantageous position over your male counterparts just to weed out the competition, which in a way amounts to being unfair to uncompromising fighters of your gender