ENVY is the Epidemic we don't want to discuss.

 ENVY is the Epidemic we don't want to discuss.

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There is an epidemic silently spreading through our core..

Its name is envy IRHSYA .

we have begun to treat envy as if it were normal. Jaise kisi aur ki khushi dekhkar jalna ek aam baat ho.

We envy the Ambanis for hosting extravagant weddings. We envy Amir khan kind of celebrities for the girls he chose.

We envy successful professionals in our own field. We envy people from another city, another organisation, another community. We even envy someone who writes a thoughtful social media post, buys a new car, builds a beautiful home, or performs a grand puja.

Sometimes, we envy people who have absolutely nothing to do with our own lives.

The question is akhir kyun?

When did another person's happiness become a threat to our own?

What if we chose admiration over jealousy?

If someone is succeeding through honest effort, hard work, or good fortune, toh unki tarif karne mein humein takleef kyun hoti hai? Why can't another person's success become our inspiration instead of our frustration?

Somewhere, we have forgotten one of life's simplest joys .is .dusron ki khushi mein khush hona.

Another worrying trend is our tendency to treat every field as personal property.

The wealthy think wealth belongs only to them. Successful professionals begin to believe excellence is their monopoly. Senior members of organisations often become uneasy when younger members begin to shine.

"Yeh hamara field hai."

But is it really?

History smiles at such assumptions.

Time is the greatest leveller.

Samay sabka hai. Samay kisi ek vyakti ki jagir nahi hai.

No position is permanent. No title lasts forever. Every generation eventually hands over the baton to the next.

If time is going to replace all of us anyway, why spend our lives protecting imaginary thrones?

I have seen young doctors resent senior doctors instead of learning from them. I have seen experienced leaders discourage promising newcomers instead of mentoring them.

Arre bhai, if someone has reached where you wish to reach, don't pull them down. Learn how they climbed.

I have even heard people dismiss a family's beautiful celebration or a grand puja as "Kitna show-off karte hain!"

Why not think differently?

If possible, participate.

If not, congratulate them.

If even that is not possible, quietly observe and learn.

Seekhne mein koi chhota nahi ho jata.

Your envy changes nothing in their life but it changes everything in yours.

It steals your peace, poisons your relationships, clouds your judgment, weakens your character, and distances you from gratitude. Most importantly, it diverts precious time from the one person you truly need to improve ie yourself.

Apni energy comparison mein mat lagaiye. Apni growth mein lagaiye.

Another person's success is not proof of your failure. It is proof that success is possible.

The world has enough critics.it needs more people who can say, "Bahut achha kiya. Dil se mubarak ho."

Because when you genuinely celebrate someone else's success, you don't become small.

And remember...

Samay sabka hisaab barabar karta hai.

The throne you are trying so hard to protect today will one day belong to someone else.

So instead of fighting people, fight your insecurities and

Stop envying, keep blessing.

Because dua dene wale kabhi gareeb nahi hote, aur jalan rakhne wale kabhi ameer nahi bante.

When another person's light shines, your own light does not become dimmer.

The sky has room for every star

Why Blame Bollywood?

 

Why Blame Bollywood?

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I've been reading many comments on X and Fb blaming Bollywood for influencing young people to lie, deceive, or rebel in the name of love.

I wish to disagree on this.

The Bollywood I grew up watching taught me to sacrifice and to respect parents. It taught me that family mattered.

Hum Aapke Hain Koun..! celebrated sacrifice madhuri salman mohnish all of us could see ourselves in them and wanted to sacrifice our life like they did...

Dhadkans shilpa shetty showed a woman respecting her parents' decision despite her own heartbreak... And many like me were happy that she chose akshay over suneil.. and we loved suneil for his comeback ..

Maine Pyar Kiya was about proving oneself worthy to the girls father .. boys learned tow orkhard to win over girls dads. Our chetan could have done that. Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge didn't glorify eloping it showed us the importance of earning the family's blessing.. the boy slogged hard and the girl till last moment honoured her dad's order.

Many women of my generation, despite loving someone else, married the partners their parents chose. Many of them went on to build beautiful, fulfilling marriages. They are leading a very high standard life in comparison to what their lovers could have provided for.

So before bllaming bollywood we should ask ourselves a mushkil sawal.

What values are we giving our children at home?

Are we leading by example? Are we raising them with honesty, empathy, accountability, and respect?

A child's character is shaped first by family, then by schools, society, peers, social media and yes, films too.

Movies can influence us but they don't guide us on everyday decision making.

Siya goyal and ketan chowdhury could have tried the path of convincing parents, could have worked hard to become financially independent earn a decent living... She has shown more disrespect for her parents by allegedly murdering ketan than rebelling and asking them to call off the wedding...

I don't know which bollywood/hollywood is this generation watching.

We grew up on the theme of sacrifice and it helped us build good lives.

Feelings or Needs: What pushes us towards people?

 Feelings or Needs: What pushes us towards people?

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There was a time when family size was large. A father had eight or ten siblings, and a mother had an equal number of siblings/cousins.

And, as witnessed, not all siblings have progressed equally in life. Some became financially secure early in life, while others struggled to make ends meet.

The less fortunate expected support from those who had prospered. The successful did help, sometimes generously , but after years and decades, fatigue set in. The expectations never seemed to end. On the other hand, those who received help often felt that family should never stop supporting family.

Both sides had their own truths… no debate on that.

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Many relationships slowly faded not because there was no love, but because there were too many expectations sometimes from one party and sometimes from both sides..

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Today, I believe the situation is very different.

Most families have one or two, or at most 3, children. Parents work hard to educate all of them.

Most middle-class and upper-middle-class families are reasonably secure with all the kids doing relatively well.

Siblings are no longer dependent on each other, and they do not visit each other's homes because they are hungry, need our money, or they want to take away our belongings/status.

They come because they care for us and they want to preserve the relationship

And yet, relationships continue to crack. Why?

Because the struggle has changed. Earlier, it was about survival. Today, it is about comparison.

Who earns more? Who has a bigger house? Whose children are doing better? Who dresses better? Who is more successful? Social media has only added fuel to this silent competition.

The saddest part is that this competition is not with strangers. It is with siblings. With cousins.With close friends. With people who should have been our biggest cheerleaders.

Competition is healthy in business. It pushes companies to innovate. It is healthy in sports. It inspires excellence. But competition within the family slowly destroys Mohabbat.

You never truly win when your own people become your rivals.

Our siblings/cousins/relatives do not want our money, gifts or expensive hospitality. Most people simply want to feel respected and welcomed. They want to know that their presence matters.

And above all else, they want someone who values their time.

Time has become the rarest resource in modern life. Money can be earned again.

Possessions can be replaced, but time never returns.

So when someone spends an evening with you, visits your home, or simply chooses your company over countless other commitments, remember they have given you something priceless.

Let us honour that gift N stop measuring our lives against those we love.

Let us become each other's refuge rather than each other's competition. Because in today's world, people rarely come to our homes looking for our wealth. They come looking for warmth. And honestly , that is the richest gift any of us can offer.

*Someday, when we run out of LUCK, the emotions/relations we invest in will repay us with interest.*

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The Pic is from the Theatrical masterpiece "Humare ram." I worship not just Ram and Sita, but the entire family. Spend your time and money on this show. It adds so much value to one's life.

Watched in the company friends Deepa Priya and Aruna Raprolu

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