27 VALENTINES AND THE TRANSFORMATION.

 27 VALENTINES AND THE TRANSFORMATION.

Why postpone the celebration to Valentine's day?

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The beginning: You hang on to the person, latch on to his arm all the time, wish to remain stuck to him forever, depend on him, create more dependencies, and love him endlessly. It is a heavenly feeling; you write love ballads, dress for him, dance to his tune and be a chorus to the rhythm he creates.

The backdrop: Trained and tuned to serve the house's milord and take care of his family's needs, the holy duty of a wife and daughter-in-law is Ingrained into our minds like the codes on the ROM. We are assembled with less RAM, more ROM, and a slow processor so that the output is not quick and smart. The Software of a sanskari Nari is preloaded.

The stage of supervised learning.

Habituated & automated: Out of love or conditioning, we start doing everything to please him, help him, make him happy, support him, and stand by him.

In the process, we constantly discover our skills, talents, abilities, and strengths. We are two steps ahead of his thought process in anticipating his needs. Hence, we become psychic readers and expert administrators, developing the ability to deliver ahead of time.

The sanskari Nari software is slowly being re-engineered for robotic process automation.

We are upping our performance, raising the bar with every delivery, furthering the benchmark, and making it challenging for ourselves. Machine learning kicks in here, and we try to seek more ways to impress and please him, which makes us ambitious and keeps the reorder level on alert all the time.

We initially started doing this out of love.

Then for adventure.

Then, experimented on how he would react to our kind, helpful gestures.

Then we do it in anticipation of him returning similar assistance.

When it doesn't happen, we start doing it as a favour, speaking it out loud to the world every time we deliver. Maine kiya, mai hi sab kuch karti hoon.

We started with love, with a preconditioned mind to serve, but we have now metamorphosed into a type of artificial intelligence called "Theory of Mind.

The concept of the "Theory of mind" says that "each of us has thoughts and feelings and expectations for how we'll be treated. And they'll have to adjust their behaviour accordingly.

When nothing works, we realise it is the time to stop pampering start striking, start training.

The kick start of the trauma period: When we stop doing his work, making his bed, filing his papers, keeping his accounts, refusing to search his car keys, denying help in finding matching socks, the cracks appear, the ripples visible, the peace disturbed, his mind in denial of all this.

The sanskari Nari software is now at the final stage of machine learning called "Self Awareness".

She knows her potential, ability, and skill to extend her tentacles beyond domestic horizons.

She knows that she can be much more; her adventures out of her comfort zone and exposure to multiple tasks is propelling her to seek more, explore, unearth and unravel the new her.

In serving the family, she is confronting a newer, upgraded version of her previous self. She has started discovering the possibilities of inchmeal.

Love has finger-held her and walked her through various stages of growth.

It is love that aroused her interest in learning, performing, delivering, and upgrading.

Love has propelled her to rebel, challenge and redesign the processes.

When you are in love, you move mountains for the lover.

When you are in love, you are conscious of what you can bring to the table, which is what love has done to many of us.

It helped me evolve, rise to the occasion, teach, train, monitor, understand, engage, transform, and NEVER GIVE UP.

I would be lying if I say love to me is not about expensive gifts, not a fairy tale, not about exotic holidays, not about designer clothes and diamonds.

But I would never agree if you asked me to trade them for the privilege to explore, experiment and indulge in adventures.

I will value my individuality over inherited wealth; I would love my mental freedom stronger than the conferred gifts. I prefer to walk alone someday rather than be a shadow forever. I like to face the music rather than being a voice in the chorus.

I would want to fight battles on my merit over taking favours from chromosome "Y".

Cheers to love for the challenges it poses, the churning it creates, and all the significant upshots.

Remodel yourself from a preloaded sanskari Nari into self-awareness (artificial intelligence).

If your love is helping in this transformation, then your passion needs to be celebrated every single moment; why postpone it to Valentine day.