These days there’s so much chatter about the “non-availability of brides” ...

 These days there’s so much chatter about the “non-availability of brides” ...

parents of sons complaining about how demanding girls and their families have become, and how difficult it is to find a “good match.”

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Now rewind to the India of the 80s and 90s.

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Most families had 3 children.. usually in a combination of two girls and own boy or sometimes two boys one girl.... and daughters often grew up under the constant pressure of marriage while boys had the privilege of education college jobs..

. The moment a girl crossed her teens, anxiety entered the household. Finding an educated groom with reasonable expectations was a herculean task.

The system itself was humiliating. Middlemen, distant relatives, and family friends arranged “girl-seeing” sessions. The groom’s family would visit, eat snacks, drink coffee, inspect the girl, and quietly send a rejection later.

Every rejection bruised not just the girl, but the entire family.

After two or three rejections, whispers spread around “she’s been rejected” and suddenly her “market value” was considered lower.

For decades, girls and their families silently endured this imbalance... The pendulam was struck to one end totally in favour of the boys

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Then came change.

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Girls went to colleges, pursued higher education, gave up the hurry to get married, found jobs, started earning, and slowly began breaking stereotypes. Then came the IT revolution, greater opportunities for women, reservations in colleges, urban exposure, and financial independence.

For the first time, girls got the power to choose.. whom to marry, whether to marry, and on what terms.

The concepts of SINK DINK etc introduced ..

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So before complaining about how “difficult” things have become for boys today, perhaps society should remember how unfair the system once was for girls.

Let the pendulum swing to the other end in favour of girls for some time before it eventually finds balance at the center.

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What we are witnessing today is not revenge. It is correction. It is balance. It has started becoming fair and just.