Silver anniversaries and beyond

 Silver anniversaries and beyond..

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It has been raining weddings here, ERR wedding anniversaries.

Since my peers have entered the  Silver Jubilee bracket, it has become a never-ending saga of sangeet, haldi, wine and vows for all of us.

COVID-19 was a downer, but a post-COVID era, we all are back into the game with renewed intensity and enthusiasm.

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I believe the longer we remain married, the louder should be the parties.

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They need to celebrate the silver anniversaries and beyond:

 

They stood the test of time.

They have left an example to society on how to make relations last.

Their struggle with finances and time management did not come in the way of providing the best for their children and each other's families. 

However rough the journey was they did take part in the highs and lows of each other.

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They need to celebrate :

To bring closure to bad times, for they might have cheated on each other for a brief period but got back together for the good of it.

They may have had difficulty accommodating each other's families, but eventually made amends.

They might have had issues with overspending, under-spending,  and other portfolio management decisions. One partner might have earned less or not at all but contributed by taking care of the home front while the other focused on making ends meet.

They might have found a middle ground for the divergent political opinions, religious customs and caste equations.

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They need to celebrate because 

They fought day and night on issues as mundane as who should be the PM of the country, whether Ram mandir should be constructed or not, Arnab or Rajdeep Sardesai, and Dabang vs Interstellar, but the following morning, she served him tea while he made the bed,  and then they called it a new day.

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In this new world of fragile relations where couples are falling apart over issues as silly as the choice of entertainment, disagreement of where to party the weekend, or which place to go on a holiday a beach or mountains. They are not ready to forgive the toilet manners. The men still today do not know the etiquette of a Western commode.

 They are not able to tolerate each other's growth and be happy with others' success as they have made everything very competitive and that competitive spirit is creeping into their interpersonal space too.

The couples are falling to distractions and are not ready to pardon and let it go. In this world of instant gratification, waiting is not an option, anything which requires patience is a big turnoff. 

They cannot stand criticism of anything, too sensitive, too self-centred and extremely selfish. Not ready to accommodate anything which is out of their comfort zone hence we see so many failing marriages. 

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Amidst such challenging times, we must cheer for the senior couples who are ready to renew their vows to celebrate their marriages and honour the sacred union.  

Let us be their enthusiastic sidekicks by joining the party to make it filmy and colourful.

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We cannot take the  Benevolence of time for granted. The next year may not be the same, and one of them may not be there, so no procrastination grab the mike to announce your grandparents or parents' wedding anniversary, The onus is on the younger generation to make the seniors in the family feel special.

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The shy ones like me will hesitate to stay under the spotlight or celebrate it loud and make it a bash, so we quietly sneak into an ancient temple to take our vows, do facilitate such options too, take it up actively, book nice resort for your parents send them to a place of their choice.

Just honour them for being together for a multitude of reasons,

It may be because they were naturally in love always, or to save the honour of their parents, or for society, for the children, for security, for money or maybe for the sake of all the assets (both tangible and intangible)  they created jointly.

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Knowing the flaws and failures of a person It isn't an easy option to share personal space for donkey years.

Hence the couple needs to be goaded, lauded and celebrated till "death do them part".

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Last week my friend Monica Prasadhosted an amazing, exciting extravaganza for her silver wedding anniversary and this weekend my maternal aunt and uncle  Manu Rama and Rama Reddys golden anniversary is scheduled for a mega bash. 

Their children Rakesh Reddy  Ranjit Reddy Arpitha Reddy Renu Reddy  Reddy Aradhana are planning an evening full of fun and family times.

so looking forward to this and each of them moving forward.