Shh..beware of creepy relatives and snoopy neighbors. WEDDING SEASON IS AROUND THE CORNER __________________________________________________

 Shh..beware of creepy relatives and snoopy neighbors.

WEDDING SEASON IS AROUND THE CORNER

__________________________________________________

The wedding season is around the corner, other than bridegroom and the bride, all and sundry revelers will be busy scouting the large, small, old markets and new markets to find everything matching.

Wedding in the family rings shopping bells for every relative scattered across the globe.

I wish we can embrace the concept of repeating the sarees, make it a fashion statement to wear the same saree to 2 consecutive weddings. I have started that and pulling in many of my friends to adopt the same.

I would still say shopping, getting dressed, addabazi , applying Mehendi, chatting, eating sweets and other savories are all good great and a lot of fun too. The wedding home will make arrangements to accommodate all of this.

What bothers me and makes me cry is the conduct of the so-called near and dear ones. The Bua ji complaining about the non-availability of running water(hot), the mausa ji about the cold phulkas, the bhatija arguing about excess spice in the food, the phupa ji cribbing for alcohol, the dadis sister lamenting about the hard beds and mosquitos.

The neighbors whining of the noise and parking issues, arrey support for 2 days, help your neighbours remember if you help someone it will never go waste but will come back to you amplified manifold.

Planning a wedding is a very painful affair. The parents of the bride go through hell. They spend sleepless nights outlining finances, creating adjustments for making it uneventful. They don't feel as drained with the effort and hard work, but the tantrums of the apne log squeeze them dry.

They cry silent tears, weep in their hearts, but hide it from the daughter as they want it to be a happy event for her. but in many cases, even the bride is dragged into the chaos depriving her of the happiness on her special day.

Dear people

please always make it a habit to attend a wedding with the good intent of extending a helping hand, being a part of their happiness by sharing a small burden, by giving some physical labor, by running errands.

I stand like a rock behind the parents whichever wedding I attend. I ask for work, I ask for some responsibility of which they can be relieved. I become the gal Friday of the parents.

We are invited to take part in their happiness, but it is inbuilt in us to throw tantrums, show attitude, find faults and make sure to turn the happy moments of the family into stressful and gloomy ones.

We expect gifts from the bride's parents whereas our focus should be on providing whatever best we can to the new couple.

The very thought of these weddings brings some painful memories of gossiping, fault finding, quarrel picking, tantrum-throwing and extremely elitist attitude of few people and not to mention the very envious apne.

What we can do instead is Help the bride in getting dressed, help the mother in pinning her saree, help another aunty/girl put gajra around the bun, serve food, stand behind the bride's parents to run and pick things when they turn around to look for help.

Our life is not just about expecting and accepting it is more beautiful when we make it giving and caring.

So dear friends and relatives

the next wedding you attend be a part of the solution and not of the problem.

Go spread happiness, give happiness and you end up being the happiest, I can bet my two cents on this.

HAPPY WEDDING SEASON DEAR BUAS , MAUSAJIS AND DADIS.