Women are the victims of on-screen glamour

 Women are the victims of on-screen glamour

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Today, girls (aged 20-80), not all, but most of us, are, on average, spending a percentage of our budget, be it salary or pocket money or borrowed money or loan amount on cosmetics, makeup products, etc.

Looking beautiful has evolved into a complex but profitable industry.

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Serums, hitherto unknown to us, are now packaged into bottles that resemble infants' cough syrups.

Social media is flooded with reels from influencers suggesting the application of AB, BC, AH, HB, BH, CH, AHA, BHA, and various Alphabetically evolving serums, each claiming to address different skin concerns.

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Sunscreens were once applied by people who had prolonged exposure to sunlight, but now they are considered a daily necessity, even for those who spend most of their time indoors. The reasoning? Artificial lights in rooms are just as harmful as the sun itself. And we need to reapply them every three hours.

We are now sucked into a cycle of an ever-growing list of products we "must" buy to look YOUTHFUL and beautiful.

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There are different skincare routines for days and nights.

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let us start with the daycare routine

wash the face with a hydrating facewash consisting of aloevera+banana+orang peel and rice water++++

apply four layers of serums (for glow, acne, blemishes, wrinkles)

top it with a moisturizer, followed by a sunscreen.

Apply kajal, eyeliner, lip gloss, and lipstick.

Then dab dab some sun protection compact over it.

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for special events

top the above with

A sticky gel called primer

then a cc cream to hide blemishes

then concealer to conceal dark patches

and then a foundation, bronzer, highlighter, contour, plus ten layers of various products.

Then, crown it with a fixer spray to stop the products from melting and bleeding.

Ultimately, paint the eyelids like a canvas with eye shadow pallets from 4 different brands. It is a multi-step process involving outlines, fillers, glitters, and then blending everything to give it a natural look(how ironic)

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In the handbag, a compact mirror, lip gloss, and a hydrating spray are carried to maintain the makeup.

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A strict nightcare routine involves serums, lotions, and creams, all sold by beauty gang influencers. Fraudsters mostly.

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Please remember that influencers are paid to promote makeup products. One day, an influencer might declare a Masaba foundation excellent; the next day, another one will say that MAC products are unmatched as a foundation. The day after, her fellow influencer may claim that Charlotte Tilbury is the best.

As a result, we buy all three products, often using them just a couple of times before forgetting about them as soon as a new cream is launched.

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Influencers promoting cosmetics and creams are reimbursed a percentage of the sale amount. Don't fall into their trap.

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We should watch reels of comedians, yoga teachers, musicians, chefs. Reels of people who are achievers are experts in their domain, not reels of people selling and promoting products; the moment you notice an expert endorsing products regularly, just unfollow them and do not let them exploit your admiration for the skill in their art.

Be it a kohli or a Bachhan.

Once upon a time, people subscribed to a simple skin and haircare routine like the occasional application of haldi, malai, dahi-besan, and henna, and our biggest influencers were our dadis, mothers, and neighborhood aunties who shared their secret beauty tips with us.

The yellow saree

 The yellow saree.

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My father bought this saree for my mother 40 years ago from weavers in Gadwal somewhere in 1984 or 85.; I was around 9 or 10 when I witnessed my parents discussing the saree.

Then, he was a member of the Telugu Desam party and Zilla Parishad, chairman of Adilabad.

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I was sitting on the double cot in my parent's bedroom when my father opened his suitcase and handed over the saree to my mother.

She took it in her hands, opened and spread it on the bed; I shifted aside, making space for the beautiful saree!

My mother made a face. "Why yellow?. Why do you want me to match with the Telugu Desam party color?" she unhesitatingly asked.

Watching from the sidelines, I worried it would escalate into a heated argument.

But my father smiled gently, "It will look good on you as you have a fair complexion. I like yellow, and when you accompany me to events, you can wear this."

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My mother was not fond of the color; she draped it rarely, and it had been folded away over the years, only making rare appearances at small events.

 Now, eighteen years after my mother left us, the saree is still lying in one corner of the wardrobe, a relic of a time gone by.

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Today,  I draped it for the first time, still feeling the warmness of her presence as though receiving her blessings in the touch of the fabric.

It is not just about the saree —but the memories woven into its threads. The saree had seen my mother's journey and my father's love for her, and now it is becoming a part of my life.

Draping it today felt like embracing her presence and blessings on a day like Karwa Chauth.

Unlike my mother's generation, who had smaller wardrobes and simpler lives, We have closets overflowing with clothes, but few items carry the importance of emotions like this yellow saree.

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I often tell my husband that we are like nomadic tribes. We were born in one place, raised in another, attended college in another city, married, and then moved to a different city. Finally, our work has brought us to an entirely new geographical location.

We have been gathering a bit of everything from every place we lived. The best part about us is that we are flexible and ready to adapt, accept, and evolve. We enjoy the exposure to different cities, cultures, languages, foods, and customs.

I cannot understand people who resist learning a new language(like in Karnataka). It is a blessing to experience so much newness in life.

Exploring ethnic festivities, listening to the folklore behind each of them, and understanding the reasons and logic behind each celebration is a choice we made long ago. I believe that the more I know, the happier my atma becomes.

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One beautiful festivity I am introduced to in the quest for newness is Karwa Chauth and the emotion behind its celebration. 

Fasting for the long life of the person we want to spend the rest of our life with; how beautiful is that?

There are no ifs and buts when praying for your loved ones. No reason, no logic, can deter me because nothing rewards like faith. If we have faith in anything, it will return to us with the gifts we seek. Trust in it and see the results for yourself.

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This old yellow saree, once barely worn, is now a bridge to the many lives I  lived in the spaces between then and now.

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Thank you, Mithila and Daman, for having me over and integrating me into your culture.

Thanks to all the fantastic friends who helped me feel at home .

Do send me all the pictures dear sakhis, I will save them for posterity!

Rumblings as the 49th birthday celebrations come to an end.

 Rumblings as the 49th birthday celebrations come to an end.

7th September 2024. 8.45pm.

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I naturally fall in love with idols, but this one is special.

Liberty to design and improvise is a powerful feeling.

It's a godly feeling.

The son taught me from scratch the process of idol making! I failed, failed again and then succeeded in giving shape to bappa!

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Every design(each of us are) is perfect and has a purpose; finding our spot, fitting into his scheme to tessellate in his jigsaw puzzle, is the challenge.

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I was born during Ganesh Utsav celebrations, and today, my Ganesha and I are sharing the birthday!

Happy happy!

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My mom left this planet two days short of her 49th birthday; hence, psychologically the 49th birthday is a landmark for me.

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Stepping into the 50th year feels special because the other side of 50 makes one mature, intelligent, powerful and independent.

It is empowering to have the backing of 49 years of wisdom, which is my proprietary and built on my mistakes and suffering.

Strangely, yesterday's pain and mistakes have become today's learning and tomorrow's wisdom.

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Blessed to have a loving family, friends and colleagues.

Each one of them made me feel special, totally submerged under love and care, immense gratitude now and forever.

The surprise party was a surprise indeed!

Thank you is an incomplete expression!

Let us all stay strong and healthy for my 50th birthday in 2025

The preparations have begun for the same!

Mehandi, I think, acts like an ex!

 Mehandi, I think, acts like an ex!

When it's freshly applied, just like when one is still in a relationship, it demands attention. It's beautiful, even intoxicating, but it binds you, limiting your freedom. With every little movement, one is reminded of its presence.

And when the time comes to wash it off (break up), it's not as simple as wiping it away. So much like parting ways with someone you loved, it leaves behind its mark. The bright and vibrant stain reminds you of the good times, of the days when things felt new and full of promise. You see it every time you look at your hands; even though it's fading, it's still there. Lingering. Holding on.

It's a constant reminder of what you thought might last forever. But as it dulls, you come to terms with its departure. Each day, the color lightens, and so does its weight.

And then one day, just like that, it's gone.

That's when you know—you're ready. Ready for a new beginning, fresh mehandi, a new story, and the future. The old has faded, leaving only memories, and your palms and life are again free to be adorned with something new.

#karwachauthspecial

#mehndi #2024

VINESH PHOGAT TO MOUMITA DEBNATH

 VINESH PHOGAT TO MOUMITA DEBNATH

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It is an undeniable fact that women face sexual harassment in the workplace, specifically in male-dominated environments. When Vinesh reported sexual harassment, it required severe and immediate attention from the government. Instead, the government initially went into denial mode rather than acting to address the situation.

Vinesh is genuinely a warrior by every definition. Any ordinary person would have been frustrated after enduring the unfairness she faced during her protests, including being dragged on the streets and humiliated.

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No woman would come forward to report sexual harassment for entertainment or personal gain. Vinesh is not seeking attention; she is a champion and fighter who has secured victory for India. A true fighter never gives up, and neither did Vinesh. 

In August, she made a remarkable return to the sport Despite the setbacks in Rio, Tokyo, and on the streets of Delhi.

Vinesh was unstoppable in Paris; she stormed into the final after defeating Pan American Games champion Guzman of Cuba 5-0 in the semi-finals.

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But fate rechallenged her; this time, the situation was beyond her control; it was not about fighting an outsider but her own body. Vinesh failed to keep her weight below 50 kg on the morning of her final bout. She weighed 50.100kg, just 100 grams above the limit, which led to her disqualification from the event.

 Fate gave Cuban wrestler Guzman a direct entry into the finals, first losing to Vinesh and her spot but getting into the finals because of Vinesh's disqualification. An intertwined fate of these two souls got squared at the Paris Olympics.

Vinesh fought for justice but lost, and her wrestling journey ended bitter. 

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BJP failed in handling the wrestlers' protest; the prime minister should have come down a few steps and sent his female ministers to embrace Vinesh and stand in solidarity with her. Showing empathy when needed the most is very rewarding; people remember the ones who stand with them in their weakest moments, in the moments of self-doubt.

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The BJP underestimated Vinesh Phogat's fighting spirit and couldn't anticipate her near podium finish in Paris. They thought her story was finished, but instead, they created a monster, a determined competitor,  and the enemies of BJP did not leave any stone unturned to fan the fire. As a result, she is now seeking retribution from the BJP.

Imagine Vinesh winning gold in Paris, sending the entire BJP into self-imposed hiatus for the longest time.

When the Haryana elections come, the Prime Minister's advisors will have a lot of damage control to do.

 A wasted opportunity(EGO) for the BJP in the impending battle to win Haryana, Timely compassion and kindness would have changed their image in the eyes of a larger population.

Investors value transparency, and dear BJP, your investors are your voters.

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Moumita Debnaths's parents and colleagues also expected the same.

Didi should have sent the likes of Dr Kakoli Gosh Dastidar, an alumnus of RG Kar Medical College, to stand by Moumita's parents and personally oversee the funeral.

Irrespective of who is involved and how damaging it is to the party, Didi should have come forward and expressed complete solidarity support with the victim's family and ensured a safe workplace for all the women at the government hospitals, bringing in some immediate moves by arresting all the suspects. 

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She should have repeated how she stood for the Rajeev Kumar IPS in 2019 by doing a sit-in dharna at Esplanade. Before Moumita's parents decide to sit on a dharna for justice ( political opportunists from all sides are sensing a prospect in it), Please do not make enemies out of healthcare employees lest they will rally around the VICTIMS family, and it may become a return of Singur.

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When Kangana was fighting politicians in Mumbai, we all supported her, and we then had a hint that her end goal was politics; even Vinesh showed the same signs. ONE WAS BACKED BY THE BJP AND THE OTHER BY THE CONGRESS.

Vinesh or Kangana will be hero-worshipped as long as they stick to the domain that made them heroes; once you enter public life, you should be ready for the scrutiny of your private life, and the mud-slinging matches will intensify, then playing the Victim card will not work.

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Moumita's parents need to know what happened to their daughter on the night of 9th August; they have the right to have an every-minute account of it; if the assault was by one person or more than one,  CBI should come out and give details to her family and to everyone around.

CBI, under the influence of the central government, should not play politics with victims' families the way it did with the SSR family. 

The agency will wait for the sensation and public interest to die a natural death and silently release the report one evening in favour of their masters.

If the bureaucracy was honest and showed a spine, half of our problems would vanish.

We often blame the political class, but the judiciary and bureaucracy are equally corrupt, greedy, and hand-in-glove.

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Whatever the intent of the Modi government / Didi government, the political posturings of empathy and sympathy could have helped them eliminate one potential rival. 

Telangana government sensed public unrest after the gruesome rape and murder of a dentist in the outskirts of Hyderabad hence went by the demands of the masses and eliminated the rapists; the decision was applauded by one and all barring some pseudo-intellectuals.

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Only with the respective governments' intent and involvement will there be closure for Vinesh Moumita or anyone asking for it.

The pain of crime is sometimes much less than that of not receiving justice.

The pain of not being heard is far more than that of not receiving justice.

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#VineshPhogat #moumitadebnath #vineshphogatdisqualified #rgkarmedicalcollege

Special connection with Sambaji Nagar

 27/01/2023

Special connection with Sambaji Nagar
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After spending the weekend with my daughter and dropping her off at collethisday morning, I decided to visit temples. She insisted on staying at college for lunch and ordered me to STAY AWAY  till 5 pm.
Thanks to her, I covered the Bhadra Maruti temple at Kuldabad,  then Grishneshwar, which means lord of compassion; it is the 12th of jyotirlingas in the vicinity of Ellora caves.
Devotees usually visit Grishneshwar at the end of covering 12 jyotirlinga darshanams. Still, I started my spiritual journey with this temple, and the blessings came in abundance every time  I went to meet Shiva Parvati.
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The temple was transformed many times, destroyed, and rebuilt like many of the other 12 jyotirlingas in India.

It was rebuilt in its current form in the 18th century under the sponsorship of queen Ahilyabai Holkar of Indore after the fall of the Mughal Empire
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The next stop was at Ellora cave number 16.
The natural pull today came from this particular cave.
The Kailasa temple in the Ellora Caves is a megalith carved from one rock. It is considered one of the most remarkable cave temples in India because of its size, architecture, and sculptural treatment, built in the 8th century!∆
The average person like me did not know what Kailasa Temple was!
I saw it as a thirteen-year-old but wasn't wise enough to comprehend the greatness of Ellora caves, specifically cave number 16.
My father drove the family to introduce us to the caves, daulatabad fort, grishneshwar, and many other exciting places leading to Nashik and ending at Janmasthan of river Godavari in Nasik, which is also called Dakshina ganga. It is the second-largest river in India.

The Kailasa temple, in today's parlance, can be called one of the first examples of Minecraft in history.
People with pickaxes carved out a mountainside till they had a temple.
It (Cave 16) is the largest of the 34 Buddhist, Jain, and Hindu cave temples known collectively as the Ellora Caves, ranging for over 2 km along the sloping basalt cliff at the site. The architecture shows traces of South Indian carvings. It is noticeable and  notable for its vertical excavation and is  the only structure in the world that is carved from the top to bottom
The aerial view of the temple can be found on Google; it is a mesmerising sight, with goosebumps giving visual.
Every design & measurement was planned precisely, as once it was cut, there was no chance to change it by adding extra stone

This temple is from single solid basalt bedrock measuring  164 feet long and 108 feet wide. The structure will probably never be built again on Earth!
It is considered the largest Monolithic Structure in the World and can be called Wondersders of the Wonders!
I was blessed to spend half a day at the site, devouring every inch of it with my eyes.
You should see it to believe its magnanimous, enthralling, captivating aura.

Ellora caves are depicted on the new rs—20-note Indian currency.
The caves are UNESCO-declared world heritage sites.
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I had to catch hold of solo travellers to get my pic clicked and return the favour by clicking theirs.
The best shots came from the young ladies, and the worst came from middle-aged men.

I thought only my husband was poor at clicking my pics; alas, it is the same sorry story from East to West.
I asked one man
Aap bhabhi ke pictures bi itni buri lete ho kya
He said ho na, wo trass make mere saath jaati ich nai.
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I MURMURED YOU DESERVE IT!
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Gratitude.
I have always experienced an ancestral spiritual connection with this city. Every time I bid goodbye to it, considering it my last visit, the Maratha aura summons me to bestow some larger good.

#aurangabad
#elloracaves
#Grishneshwar
#kailasatemple
#mgmuniversity
#January2023

Nita Ambani, three cheers to you!

 

Nita Ambani, three cheers to you!

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Stop worrying about Ambani's Wedding.

Start worrying about your physical health, financial health, mental health and your family's future.

How much pleasure are we deriving from envying the people who are better than us?

How jobless and sadistic should one be when analysing the divorce settlement problems of Radhika and Anant?

If we connect the extravaganza to the divorce, something needs to be fixed with us, not Ambanis.

Divorce has nothing to do with the wedding budget for people like Ambanis.

No one will marry, foreseeing divorce as a possibility in the future.

Divorce is neither a taboo nor a financial bothersome for people of their stature.

They will find a way out to sort it.

And let's remember circulating money benefits the country and its economy instead of hoarding it in your vaults.

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Invest your brain and time in finding a good partner for yourselves or your children.

Use your intelligence and analytical ability to improve your life.

It is so effortless to advise someone to spend the wedding budget on charity, and this recommendation comes from—people who may not have ever fed a single person a simple meal without expecting anything in return.

Who are we to dictate to them how they should celebrate their joys and the homecoming of a bride?

All of those criticising them, did you not have a good wedding?

Will you guys not host one for your children?

Will you spend all the wedding budget on charity and opt for a silent registered marriage?

Learn to be happy in others' happiness.

Have respect for people who have generated employment for lakhs of people, and many families meet the education and other expenses of the family by selling reliance shares.

Stop demonising entrepreneurship!

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I have noticed this

People, for no reason, envy others, envy somebody who caused no harm to them, malign people whose paths never crossed.

I have personally heard many stories of people in my surroundings sabotaging others' happiness and growth.

We are a society of morons if we cannot see someone's happiness, growth and success.

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So it is their money, time, happiness, and celebrations.

I loved watching their joyful moments, kaleidoscopic clothes, and beaming faces.

Bringing a bride home is the merriest moment for the parents, and let them make it memorable.

I wish Radhika and Anant a life of smiles, love, and fights.

A marriage devoid of fights is a lifeless marriage.

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Reliance should now venture into event management, hosting weddings and corporate gatherings. It should be run by the family's women, considering their experience as great hosts.

Nita, Isha, Shloka and Radhika have a matchless spirit and will turn the Reliance Eventz Pvt Ltd into a blockbuster one.

They may attract clients from all over the world, as many people desire to have a Bollywood-style Indian wedding. With their connections, bringing in Hollywood stars, sports icons, and giant business houses as clients will be easy.

They can show the family wedding events as promos.

Reliance Group is known for being a good paymaster and values its employees' contributions. So they can get Rihanna, Biebers, and Beyoncés from around the world under the payroll.

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Once again, Radhika and Anant, may life be kind to you, and may you be blessed with wealth to run VANTARA forever.

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