Wednesday, December 3, 2025

THE STORY OF YOJNA SHIVASHANKAR

 HE STORY OF YOJNA SHIVASHANKAR

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Yojna Shivashankar was born in a small Brahmin household, the eldestof two daughters, her house always smelt of coffee, incense, books, devotion and discipline. Her father, a mathematics professor, and her mother, a hindi teacher, raised their daughters with one mantra: “Vidya hi sampatti hai” knowledge is the only wealth.
Dusky, slender, with sharp eyes that carried quiet intensity, Yojna was not the kind who drew attention in a crowd. She lived in her books, not in people’s eyes. Her dreams were simple, to top her exams, earn a scholarship, and make her parents proud.
Then came Nishant.
Fair, magnetic, with a smile that could melt resistance, Nishant entered the engineering college like he owned the world. He sang, he danced, he played the guitar, he joked with professors and flirted with destiny. Girls turned when he passed, laughter followed him like perfume.
And yet, he noticed her.
Yojna, the quiet girl in the third row, scribbling notes even when others chatted and had fun..
se never sought attention, and perhaps that’s why she got his.
He started to sitting near her, borrowing notes, asking for help before exams. Slowly, she began smiling more, speaking more.
He took her out for chai near the bus stand; she hesitated, but went. For the first time in her life, Yojna was seen not for her marks, but for her presence.
he chose her because he was smart, he wanted someone who is not like him, he was smelling stability in her, a homemaker, not so demanding wife, a submissive girl , easy to handle to manipulate.....
Opposites attracted like day and dusk.
He was flamboyant; she was grounded.
He spoke in song; she in silence.
He believed in charm; she in karma.
Their love bloomed quietly between semesters and stage performances.
When Nishant sang on college day, she was the only one he looked at in the crowd.
But when love entered, so did resistance.
Her parents, strict traditionalists, couldn’t bear the idea “A boy from a different community? A classmate?” They called it rebellion. Yojna called it destiny. And for the first time in her obedient life, she chose her heart over her home.
She left her parents for him, she married Nishant.
Life began modestly two young engineers, two salaries, one rented house.
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She was a civil engineer, designing buildings that touched the sky.
He was a software engineer, building codes that touched the world.
But soon, his job took him places. Flights, client dinners, luxury hotels, laughter-filled office parties. Her's kept her on dusty sites under harsh sun.
She still looked at him with awe, her Nishant, her dream boy.
Then came Samvriddhi, their daughter, the blessing they both wanted.
And years later, Sagar, their son, was born when she was in her mid-thirties.
But fate had its quiet turns.
Sagar was different.
He didn’t respond like other children. Doctors said he was on the spectrum.
The rhythm of their marriage began to change.
Yojna quit her job to care for Sagar; Nishant worked harder to sustain them.
She lived among therapy sessions, meltdowns, routines, and patience.
He lived in airports, hotels, and deadlines.
Whenever he came home, she needed a break, a salon visit, an hour of silence, a walk to remember herself.
But for Nishant, homecoming began to feel like punishment from spotlights to dim rooms, from compliments to complaints.
His laughter became rarer.
Her silence became heavier.
He still joked with his juniors, still had admirers, and still played the guitar sometimes at office retreats. People said “Nishant hasn’t changed at all!”
But Yojna knew he had.
Or maybe… they both had.
She had once fallen in love with the hero everyone admired.
Now she lived with the man no one really knew
Marriage, for Yojna, had become a ritual of packing and unpacking.
Every Friday evening, she would wait for the sound of the doorbell Nishant returning home after a week of travel. He came in with a bright smile, a bag full of laundry, and stories of conferences and client dinners.
Her weekends were spent washing, folding, arranging, and repacking his life.
Clean shirts, matching socks, ironed trousers all ready for another few days away.
What began as care slowly turned into caretaking.
She wasn’t his wife anymore she was the caretaker of three children:
Samvriddhi, Sagar, and Nishant.
The home had become a transit point for him.
And for her, it was a prison of unending chores and invisible emotions.
She tried protesting first gently, then with words that trembled from exhaustion.
But Nishant, now used to applause outside the home, couldn’t tolerate complaints inside it.
He called her “negative,” “boring,” and “always nagging.”
Their togetherness shrank into small arguments and long silences.
The bed became a boundary line.
Nishant’s world was expanding: foreign trips, promotions, parties, and new faces.
And with expansion came temptation.
What began as harmless flirtations with colleagues and hotel receptionists soon crossed the line.
One-night stands became his way of “unwinding.”
He convinced himself it was harmless, that he “deserved” some happiness after the stress.
Yojna, on the other hand, was living in a loop. Therapy sessions for Sagar, school projects for Samvriddhi, grocery lists, power cuts, loneliness.
She longed for one weekend where they could sit and talk really talk not about bills, not about schedules, but about them.
But Nishant wasn’t listening.
He was now at the peak of his career,
A high salary, global exposure, professional admiration. Women at work adored his charm, his confidence, his success.
He loved the attention; it was his new oxygen.
“A man who needs applause to feel alive is already half dead.”
He had forgotten that success without balance is failure in disguise.
And a man who needs the world to tell him he is great has already lost touch with his truth.
For Nishant, home was a burden.
For Yojna, home was her world.
Two people living under the same roof one escaping it, the other holding it together.
The problem with Nishant was never lack of intelligence.
It was excess of self-importance.
At work, he was treated like royalty. Colleagues deferred to him, juniors admired him, bosses tolerated his arrogance because he delivered results. He lived in that rhythm of command, of control, of constant victory.
He fought his way up, stepping over rivals, manipulating systems, charming his way into leadership.
But the tragedy of men like Nishant is this they forget that the strategies that win in boardrooms destroy in bedrooms.
He began to treat home like another battlefield.
He wanted to “win” arguments.
He wanted to “prove” his point.
He wanted to “dominate” decisions.
He was so used to being the king outside that he came home expecting to be worshipped inside.
He never lifted a finger for household chores laundry, kids’ homework, groceries all were beneath him.
He believed that providing wealth was enough a roof over their heads, good schools, a car, vacations. He gave them a free hand to spend money and thought that was the highest form of service.
He didn’t realize that money cannot buy the currency of respect.
For a man to be revered, to be loved, to have his masculinity honored, he has to participate in the life he creates.
He has to sit on the floor and play with his children.
He has to wash a few plates, help with homework, listen to his wife’s silent tears, and ask her, “Are you okay?” not out of duty, but affection.
That is how a man becomes the true head of the family not by earning the most, but by giving the most of himself.
But Nishant, blinded by his corporate glory, forgot that simple truth.
He mistook power for respect.
He mistook wealth for worth.
He mistook dominance for love.
He didn’t understand that what children cherish are moments, not money.
They won’t remember the branded shoes he bought, but the evenings he spent teaching them to ride a bicycle.
They won’t remember the bank balance, but the bedtime stories, the laughter at dinner, the warmth of his presence.
Wealth can vanish overnight in a storm, a stock crash, a gamble, or even a careless mistake.
But love, laughter, and shared memories those no thief can steal, no fate can erase.
Yojna often sat by the window at night, watching the city lights, thinking:
“He’s building empires outside, but he’s losing his kingdom inside.”
The great Nishant, who once sang to her in college, now couldn’t even look her in the eye.
The man who had once said “You are my peace” had now become the reason for her unrest.
And in that quiet realization, something broke inside Yojna not in rage, but in deep, silent clarity.
She began to see the difference between a successful man and a fulfilled one.
Nishant was the first..... her goal was to learn to become the second.
The fracture had begun.
It was invisible, but irreversible.
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to be continued............

Tuesday, October 21, 2025

One more kavita is Sacrificed

 One more kavita is Sacrificed

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It is neither a surprise nor a shock that Kalvakuntla Kavitha is sacked from her party by her father!
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She was doing more than just bruising egos or competing with her extended family members.
As an ambitious daughter she was making the male members insecure , by stealing the future space reserved for them.
Yes, she might be arrogant.
Yes, she might be corrupt.
Yes, she might have crossed lines.
But tell me which politician is not?
Or who in BRS is not corrupt?
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Smriti Irani, Kanimozhi, YS Sharmila, and Kavita are different women, different stories, yet each a victim in her own way, not due to incompetence, but perhaps due to gender.
Smriti Zubin Irani faced myriad challenges, including being undermined by colleagues, body-shamed, maligned for her academic record, and accused of being the Prime Minister's favourite.
Instead of celebrating her courage and grit, they hounded her for being a giant slayer. it is their loss that she has decided @d to go back to television.
YS Sharmila Reddy ;s fight was tangled in property and power. Despite her mother's support, her brother's towering presence and her own lack of popularity pushed her out.
Kanimozhi Karunanidhi was sent to Delhi while her brother ruled Tamil Nadu. As a stepsister, she was easier to compromise with. She seemed content with a quieter role, but it was still a settlement written into her fate by her male-dominated family.
And now, Kavita.
Her resilience reflects the strength of women in adversity.
Her challengers in the family, KTR, the son, and Harish Rao, the nephew, are men of proven merit, undefeated at the ballot box.
Kavita won the 2014 Lok Sabha but could not retain the MP seat in 2019.
She was punished by people with a defeat, less for her own politics and more for being her father's daughter. People wanted to teach KCR a lesson by defeating his daughter, an easy target.
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That defeat left her adrift, vulnerable, and perhaps pushed her toward shortcuts (liquor scandal), which is still haunting her and is being used as one of the reasons for her ouster..
The BRS is a family-run party and Kavita contributed to its rise and hence deserves an equal share of space, respect, and recognition.
Instead, she was cushioned when the party needed her to play the cultural face and women's voice to revive the festival of Bathukamma via Telangana Jagruti, and discarded once that role was no longer needed. First rewarded for being a woman, then punished for the very same reason.
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History tells us women in politics are rarely spared.
Indira Gandhi survived because she had no brother to compete with, though even she was attacked relentlessly and betrayed by her own paternal family. The battle she waged against male chauvinism should be recorded in history as a pioneering effort to make space for women in Indian politics.
Maneka Gandhi carved her space on her own merit, despite carrying the Gandhi name without the dynasty's support.
Vasundhara Raje and Mamata Banerjee built their ground independently.
However, Ms Raje had the title of belonging to a royal family!
Smriti Irani fought for every inch.
Kanimozhi inherited but still wrestled.
And Kavita? She is abandoned!
The party patriarch, Shri KCR, chose his son over his daughter, a decision that reflects a typical pattern among fathers across India and the world.
Daughters are usually pacified with property or wealth, sometimes secretly, sometimes openly.
But here, Kavita is denied even the basic dignity.
Her own father ditched her. Unsurprising, however. It didn't feel kind to me.
Let's assume Kavita is incompetent. In that case, her father should have sat her down and advised her to step out on her own slowly, gradually leave active politics, etc.
But to erase her role in building the party, to deny her the respect and recognition she rightfully earned, is not just unjust, it's humiliating.
I agree she is guilty of corruption, but which politician isn't?
I feel terrible for her, I can feel her, I can see the tears she is swallowing while speaking, the pain in her voice, the tremors in her throat, the fire in her heart, the chaos in her mind.....
Dear Kavita, we are all watching you, vouching for you to fight back.
we want to see you rise from the ashes, stronger and more determined than ever before.
Transform this betrayal into the next chapter in your life
teach all timid fathers , insecure brothers and shrewd cousins what a wounded woman is capable of ...
force your father to call you back, hug you and feel proud of you...
As a daughter, you have played your role so far; now, lead the pack of women and show us the way!
We are with you, not one, not two, but millions of us!
Go girl!

A Big Shoutout to All the Women Fighting Different Battles

 A Big Shoutout to All the Women Fighting Different Battles

Women everywhere are fighting silent battles every single day.
Battles with self-doubt, with guilt, with that sinking feeling of being inadequate, incomplete, insufficient.
To you, I say I feel you. I hear you. I understand you.
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There’s also another category of women, those who remain locked in bad marriages. They do it for the children, for the elders, for the “family name,” for the sake of keeping society comfortable while their own hearts stay heavy. Silent divorces are on the rise. And to you, I say you are not alone.
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To the Women Who Feel Inadequate
When a man strays, when he gets attracted to other women, flirts within your own circle, or even steps into an affair, pls remember the truth,
It is not your fault.
He does not wander because you are lacking.
He wanders because he lacks moral strength.
Because he craves validation.
Because his machismo needs feeding.
Because he confuses money with love.
Because he falls for shallow praise.
Do not wear his sins as your guilt.
Do not confront or fight or defend or cover up fpr him,,,,
Just step back, hold your dignity, and act like the queen you are.
He may come back grounded, guilty, seeking you again.
And that is when you will have the power to decide his fate.
Let's assume he is not coming back. Even then, it is not a lack; it is a gain to not have a man of weak integrity in your life.
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To the Women in Unequal Marriages
Then some marriages do not collapse because of infidelity but because of mismatched minds, mismatched financial status, mismatched income, mismatched upbringing.
Differences in mindset, outlook, values.
Differences in how you spend, how you dream, how you treat each other’s families,
This battle is quieter, but no less brutal. It eats away at harmony, at peace, at the possibility of partnership.
To every woman in either of these battles: hold your head high.
Your worth is not defined by someone else’s weakness.
Your happiness does not have to be chained to someone else’s choices.
You are stronger than you think.
You are more complete than you believe.
You are enough.
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Don't let someone else's opinion of you make you feel less. Instead, spend time on yourself and focus on making yourself happy.
We are not all born alike. You are not here in this life to please another person; instead, spend time identifying your purpose, in service to the people who are less fortunate, to the weak, to the pained, to the hurt.
You are not born just to be a good wife or a good daughter; you are as important as the men you are surrounded with. You have spent time making their lives beautiful, hence you may lack in earning money or having a work life. That doesn't mean you are incapable; you need to surrender.
Believe in yourself and don't become someone else to please him.
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This note is to all the women who are feeling low and hurt for no fault of theirs..... to the women i interacted with !